8 Foolproof Ways To Make Yourself More Attractive In Every Relationship
'cuz we all need a few pointers here and there
It's not as hard as you think to make people like you. Check out a few of these tips to get the masses swooning in no time!
Remember to Laugh
Better put, always remember never to take yourself- or life- too seriously. Though it’s one thing to react to a genuine problem, how many times a day do we all catch ourselves caught up in our heads, worrying about things that may or may not ever even happen?
Generally speaking, about 95% of the things the average person worries about won’t matter at all in a week, so why waste the time and energy on issues that may never even materialize?
Not only does it rob you of the potential to enjoy life’s ride, constantly stressing out over things can make you kind of a bummer to be around, given how contagious stress or perpetual gloominess can be. If however, you can convince yourself to loosen up and enjoy the little things, you’ll be just as sure to spread joy and laughter to the people around you- a highly prized trait that never goes out of style.
Though this can be a tough one to actually put into practice, it comes from being able to trust yourself. Learn to remember that you are more than capable of handling problems when and if they should arise but that until then, there's no reason to waste your time, energy, and joy.
Never Be Afraid To Lend a Helping Hand
If you want to be successful in life or business, learn to get into the habit of asking what you can do for people, rather than asking what they can do for you. Even in business situations, people love to work with their friends and there’s no better way to gain someone’s trust and establish a relationship than to offer your help to someone who needs it.
This is not to say that you should allow yourself to be taken advantage of but if you see the chance to help someone out within reasonable boundaries, take it. There are an unfortunately small amount of people left in the world who will still extend a hand to others without asking for anything in return and being one of those few is a way to set yourself apart from the crowd very quickly. Not only will you reap the joy that comes from helping others, you’ll find that, in the long run, karma has a way of taking care of those who take care of others.
Love and Take Care of Yourself
Though it may sound counterproductive, taking care of yourself is actually a great way to take care of everyone around you. This is due to the simple fact that happy-you is naturally going to be more of a joy to be around. Know what you need in order to take care of yourself and don’t be afraid to set boundaries that will allow you to live the kind of life that ensures you will remain spiritually and emotionally fed. While it’s great to help others every chance you get, make sure you don’t get so caught in up putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own that you forget to make time for yourself.
Know Who You Are and Who You Strive To Be
At the end of the day, everybody believes in something. Whether you find your moral compass through morality, religion, or just trying to be the best person you can day by day, know what you stand for and do your best to stick to your principals.
This will not only help you be true to your own inner compass, it will give you a sense of purpose and passion in life- a refreshing quality that others won’t be able to help but notice. Knowing who you want to be will also keep you from falling into the trap of living to please others- a trait that can come across as insecurity and may even push people away.
Be Respectful of Other People’s Views
In an age where hot button topic discussions on facebook tend to spiral into online battle zones within minutes, there’s nothing more refreshing than someone who knows how to respect the thoughts and beliefs of others. At the end of the day, knowing what you believe in and standing for is very different than the need to push your beliefs on everyone around you.
While engaging in a polite exchange of ideas with another person is lovely, rarely has anyone’s mind been changed because someone felt the need to condescend or mock them for their point of view. Keep in mind that listening politely to someone else’s thoughts in no way obligates you to agree with them or adopt them as your own.
Learn to Genuinely Listen
Whether it be in the form of an exchange of differing view points as discussed above, or merely listening to a friend talk about their problems, one the easiest ways to make someone’s day is to genuinely listen to them. As wrapped up as we can all get in our own thoughts about the past or planning for the future, finding someone who will actually turn off their head (not to mention their phone) and really listen is a rare treasure. It’s also a great way to become a valued friend.
Next time you find yourself on the receiving end of a conversation, try to make eye contact, engage when appropriate, and even offer a reassuring smile or understanding nod. This sends the signal to the person talking to you that you find them important enough to deserve your attention and is a great way to develop a strong and trusting relationship.
Get Excited For Others
When your friend gets a promotion at work or your daughter brings home a report card with straight A’s, strive to be the person who makes them feel like they’ve just won the lottery. Sometimes in life we all fall into the trap of making it all about ourselves, occasionally so much so that we may miss opportunities to make others feel great about their achievements. In this day in age, self-esteem can be a hard thing to pull off, so whenever you see an opening to offer someone else a sincere compliment, take it. You never know when it may just mean more to them than you think.
Own Your Side When You Make a Mistake
Few of us like conflict and sometimes there can be nothing harder than resisting going into defense mode when we find ourselves in an argument. Rather that immediately going into what the other person did wrong however, become a rockstar in anyone’s book by attempting to first ask yourself what your side of the issue was. If you find that you’re able to calmly assess and admit your own mistakes in a controlled manner, you’ll be in a much better position to both explain yourself and ask the other person to own up to their mistakes as well.
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