How to Tell My Husband I Don't Want to Have Sex With Him

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Yes, you can say no to sex with your hubby.

How to Tell My Husband I Don't Want to Have Sex With Him

Sex is an integral part of any relationship, but sometimes you just don't feel like doing it.

So how do you break the news to your husband that you're not down with getting down? Simple, you use one of the five ways below to tell him you don't want to have sex with him.

It's as easy as one, two, three!

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Schedule It for a Different Night

We're huge proponents of scheduling sex with your husband over here. Not only does it make you and your partner appreciate sticking to a schedule more, it keeps you consistent and is good for your relationship.

So if you're not feeling it one night, schedule it for some other time. That'll help you prepare to get into the mood, because sometimes it takes a little more effort to get aroused. Your husband will understand. And if he doesn't, divorce him... kidding!

Mention You're Not Feeling Well

Don't really want to break the news to your hubby that you don't want to have sex tonight? One of the oldest excuses in the book is claiming you don't feel well. Tell him you're having stomach pains or can sense a cold coming on. If you really want to make sure you squash his sex drive, mention you have the shits. That way if he won't even be able to offer up doing anal. Cover your bases. Or in this case, your holes.

Offer Up Some Foreplay Action

If you're simply not down with penetration, why not engage in a little foreplay action? After all, sex isn't just about a penis being inserted into a vagina. There are a variety of ways to get off, so why not try something different? You might discover something new that you like.

Use a G-spot vibrator or get each other off while watching porn together. There are so many things you can do that aren't what most people consider sex, so give them a go.

Say You'll Let Him Know When You're Ready

Is your husband always the first one to initiate sex? Does that turn you off? That could be the reason you're rarely ever down to experience some p in v action with your spouse. If that's the case, your sex life might benefit from you being the initiator. Note that when you're ready, you'll initiate when it's time for sex. Some men like being dominated, so if that sounds like your husband, we suggest trying out that route!

Tell It Like It Is

If you're not one to come up with an excuse or don't feel comfortable lying to your husband, then flat out tell him you don't want to have sex with him. You don't need to be harsh, but tell him what he's doing that's preventing you from feeling turned on by being in his arms. Openly communicating your issues will only strengthen your relationship, so get to talking. Tell him what you like, what you don't, and all the things you're curious to try. Don't hold back, but also, do it as politely as possible. He's human, too.

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