Quiz: How You Respond To These Situations Says A Lot About Your Personality

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Remember to go with your instincts!

Answer these in depth questions to figure out your true personality Tendency. It's insanely accurate and you won't be the same.

 Jun 05, 2018

1 of 19Pick your answer!

People get frustrated with me, because if they ask me to do something, I’m less likely to do it (even if they’re a boss or client).
Strongly Agree
Somewhat Disagree
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Disagree

2 of 19Pick your answer!

I do what I think makes the most sense, according to my judgment, even if that means ignoring the rules or other people’s expectations.
Strongly Disagree
Somewhat Disagree
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Agree

3 of 19Pick your answer!

Commitments to others should never be broken, but commitments to myself can be broken.
Somewhat Disagree
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree

4 of 19Pick your answer!

Sometimes I won't do something I want to do, because someone wants me to do it.
Strongly Agree
Strongly Disagree
Somewhat Agree
Somewhat Disagree

5 of 19Pick your answer!

I’ve sometimes described myself as a people-pleaser.
Somewhat Agree
Somewhat Disagree
Strongly Agree
Strongly Disagree

6 of 19Pick your answer!

I don’t mind breaking rules or violating convention--I often enjoy it.
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Agree
Somewhat Disagree
Strongly Disagree

7 of 19Pick your answer!

I have struggled with addiction.
Somewhat Agree
Somewhat Disagree
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree

8 of 19Pick your answer!

When I'm trying to resist a strong temptation, it's easier for me to avoid that temptation altogether, rather than to indulge in moderation.
Somewhat Disagree
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Agree
Strongly Disagree

9 of 19Pick your answer!

Have you ever suddenly or dramatically changed your appearance?
Strongly Agree
Somewhat Disagree
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Disagree

10 of 19Pick your answer!

I have a hard time mentally putting issues from my day aside which makes it hard for me to fall asleep.
Somewhat Disagree
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree
Somewhat Agree

11 of 19Pick your answer!

You try to respond to your e-mails as soon as possible and cannot stand a messy inbox.
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Agree
Somewhat Disagree
Strongly Disagree

12 of 19Pick your answer!

You find it easy to stay relaxed even when there is some pressure.
Somewhat Agree
Somewhat Disagree
Strongly Agree
Strongly Disagree

13 of 19Pick your answer!

You rarely worry about how your actions affect other people.
Somewhat Disagree
Somewhat Agree
Strongly Disagree
Strongly Agree

14 of 19Pick your answer!

Which statement best describes your view about your commitments to yourself?
I make a commitment to myself only if I'm convinced it makes sense.
I’ll meet them only if If someone else is holding me accountable.
I bind myself as little as possible.
I take commitments to myself as seriously as commitments to others.

15 of 19Pick your answer!

At times, we feel frustrated by ourselves. Are you most likely to feel frustrated because…
I can take time for other people, but I can’t take time for myself.
My constant need for more information exhausts me.
As soon as someone expects me to do something, I don’t want to do it.
I can’t take a break from my habits or violate rules, even when I want to.

16 of 19Pick your answer!

When you’ve formed a healthy habit in the past, what helped you stick to it?
Doing a lot of research about why and how I might keep that habit.
Usually I don’t choose to bind myself to a particular course of action.
I'm pretty good at sticking to habits, even when no one else cares.
I could stick to a good habit only when I was answerable to someone else.

17 of 19Pick your answer!

Have you kept a New Year’s resolution where you weren’t accountable to anyone—a resolution like drinking more water or keeping a journal?
I’m good at keeping resolutions, even ones that no one knows about.
Sure, but I make them when the time is right, not on arbitrary date.
No. I hate to bind myself in any way.
I often struggle when resolutions are only for myself.

18 of 19Pick your answer!

If people complain about your behavior, you’d be least surprised to hear them say…
You stick to your good habits, even when it's inconvenient for another.
You ask too many questions.
You’re good at taking the time when others ask, but not for yourself.
You only do what you want to do, when you want to do it.

19 of 19Pick your answer!

Which description suits you best?
Asks necessary questions.
Disciplined—sometimes, even when it doesn’t make sense.
Refuses to be bossed by others.
Puts others—clients, family, neighbors, coworkers—first.
WOMEN.COM | Quiz Facts

By asking the one simple question, “How do I respond to expectations?” we gain explosive self-knowledge. We all face both outer expectations (meet work deadlines, answer a request from a friend) and inner expectations (keep a New Year’s resolution, start meditating). Our response to expectations determines whether we’re an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Rebel.   Our Tendency shapes every aspect of our behavior, so using this framework helps us to make better decisions, meet deadlines, suffer less stress, and engage more effectively with other people.   Managers, doctors, teachers, spouses, and parents already use this framework to help people make significant, lasting change. Just as important, knowing our Tendency can help us manage ourselves. The Four Tendencies explain why we act—and why we don’t act.

The Four Tendencies distinguish how people tend to respond to expectations: outer expectations (a deadline, a “request” from a sweetheart) and inner expectations (write a novel in your free time, keep a New Year’s resolution).

Your response to expectations may sound slightly obscure, but it turns out to be very, very important. Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations (I’m an Upholder, 100%). Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense--essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations. Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves. Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike

If you’d like to find out if you’re an Upholder, a Questioner, an Obliger, or a Rebel, take this quiz now!