Mate Hate: What It Means When Your Friends Don't Like Your Boyfriend
Should you always put 'hoes over bros'?
You know how the story goes. Girl meets boy. Girl starts dating boy. Girl’s friends don’t approve of boy. Girl has to choose between friends and boy.
So you’ve met the man of your dreams but your best friends don’t seem all that happy for you . . . Well, there’s a reason for it. If they are your true friends, they care about you and simply want what’s best. If they’ve given him a chance and still don’t warm up to him over time, you might want to start listening to them.
Want some perspective? Here are the top 4 reasons your friends don’t like your boyfriend:
1. THEY SEE THE RED FLAGS BEFORE YOU
When you first start dating someone, it’s common to put them on a bit of a pedestal and fall for an idealized version of him. This makes you momentarily blind to any of their flaws. Your friends might see the warning signs before you do, so let them know they can be open and honest about their observations with you.
2. THEY FEEL NEGLECTED
All too often, when you enter into a new relationship, you become consumed with the other person and tend to spend all your free time with them. This means that your friends could be feeling left out and like they are no longer a priority in your life. If they notice you’re spending too much time with your new boo, they might even suspect you of being in an unhealthy codependent relationship.
3. THEY ONLY HEAR FROM YOU WHEN YOU COMPLAIN ABOUT HIM
Chances are you complain about your man more than you realize. If you’re constantly venting about your man’s faults during brunch or girls’ night out, your friends won’t forget about it as easily as you do. You might forgive your man for every little mistake, but your true friends will be protective and on their guard anytime he slips up again. They might actually have a better picture of how your guy treats you than you do. Love is blind.
4. THEY KNOW SOMETHING YOU DON’T
Maybe your friends secretly know something shady about your boyfriend but just don’t know how to tell you. If he’s cheating on you, lying about his job, or not being honest with you about his intentions, your friends might feel guilty about intervening and choose to keep it to themselves. Sometimes friends will put your temporary happiness before everything else, and just let you figure it out in your own time.