Married To Technology: How To Get Your Partner To Put Down The Smartphone
Smartphone addiction could be ruining your relationship.
Let’s cut to the chase. Your husband is probably cheating on you — with his cell phone.
Thanks to the invention of iPhones and Androids, faithful wives don’t just have to compete with potential women — they now have to compete with the sleek new mistress also known as a smartphone.
Think about it. Smartphones are able to give your guy whatever he wants, whenever he wants it. They exist to entertain him and make him happy. It’s a relationship all about the fun without any of the responsibility.
From sexy pics of bikini-clad women on Instagram and constant validation via “likes” on Facebook to GPS directions and restaurant ratings, phones often become an extension of the people who own them. While spending lots of time glued to your phone isn’t always a bad thing, it can cause problems when your partner stops listening to you because he’s to busy scrolling through his Twitter feed.
If your man can’t seem to put his phone down no matter what the occasion — when you’re on a dinner date, at a wedding, or even when you’re falling asleep in bed — he’s definitely addicted to his phone. While his smartphone love might not be as bad as physical cheating, chances are your guy has mentally (and possibly emotionally) checkout out of your relationship in favor of paying more attention Snapchat and Angry Birds.
Long-gone are the days of pillow talk and cuddling before bedtime. Now lights out means roll over, ignore your S.O., and look at your phone. Many women are finding their relationships to become increasingly depressing and lonely.
But there is still hope for your relationship.
If you want to get your partner to put down the phone, you’re going to have to get them to unplug for a few minutes so you can have an honest conversation.
First, avoid pointing the finger. If you come out guns blazing and criticizing your partner for his cell phone habits, he will just get defensive. Instead of putting all the blame on his actions, suggest solutions that would make you happier.
For example, you could say, “I was hoping we could put our phones away tonight and have a romantic dinner together.” Chances are your spouse will be much more open to hearing what you have to say.
Once you have his attention, try to set some boundaries. Be careful, because you don’t want to appear like you’re banning him from being on his phone at all times. It helps to pinpoint the top couple of times your man’s cell phone habits have frustrated you the most. Stick to 2-3 instances and try to compromise on some “house rules.”
For example, you could suggest, “Let’s eat all our meals together without being on our phones,” or, “Let’s put our phones out of sight and on silent after 8:00 p.m.”
Hopefully your partner will be receptive to your needs and be willing to break his technology addiction. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who pays more attention to you than he does to his social media followers.
Remember, you made a vow with a person — not a phone.
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