How To Hold Your Ground With Someone Who's Passive-Aggressive AF

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The best way to handle conflict . . . NOT.

Newsflash: adding a :) at the end of your passive-aggressive text does not make you less of a bitch. :)

If you’ve ever had the displeasure of dealing with a passive-aggressive person, then you know how frustrating it can be. And if you’re the target of their aggression, it can make you start to feel like a crazy person.

Passive aggression is nothing more than candy-coated antagonism. It can range from a simple sarcastic comment to something as calculated as not doing a task to cause inconvenience.

This conflict-creating behavior is not healthy for any party involved, so it’s important to learn how to deal with it. Here are some helpful ways you can better deal with passive-aggressive people:

1. DON’T TAKE THEIR BAIT

While it can be tempting to indulge in their drama, you’re better off responding without invoking an emotional response.

2. DON’T BRING UP PAST AGGRESSION

If someone says or does something hurtful, it might make sense to you to bring up all the other instances when they made you feel the same way. This will only cause the passive-aggressive person to get defensive. Keep the focus of the conversation on the present instance and why it hurt you.

3. DON’T POINT THE FINGER

You want to be assertive when you talk, but you also don’t want to make the other person feel accused. Stick to “I” statements instead of “You” statements to make yourself more empathetic in the other person’s eyes.

4. DON’T BE A PUSHOVER

If all is said and done and the passive-aggressive person still doesn’t change, take action. If they keep mistreating you, stop hanging out with them or find another way to put your foot down. They will never get the picture until you stop letting them treat you poorly.


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