This Is Us Quotes That Made Us Cry: "Deja Vu"

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We're not ok.

On the Tuesday, October 10, episode of This Is Us, we still didn't get clarity on how Jack (Milo Ventimiglia) dies, but we did begin to understand the affect his dad's death had on Kevin (Justin Hartley). Plus, Sylvester Stallone made his long-awaited This Is Us debut as himself, and his sage advice will hopefully lead Kevin toward healing and away from his nasty twin fights with Kate (Chrissy Metz) over their father. Meanwhile, on the other side of the country, Randall (Sterling K. Brown) and Beth (Susan Kelechi Watson) welcomed a foster daughter, Deja, into their home. And back in the 70s, Jack finally found a way to open up to Rebecca (Mandy Moore) about his struggle to overcome alcoholism.

Now that we're caught up, here they are: the best This Is Us quotes from episode 203 that left us in tears. (But, really, what made us cry the absolute hardest was the flashback montage of Kevin and his dad while Kevin was filming his big action movie scene!)

This Is Us Quotes | Deja Vu

Jack: “I know that men, they’re supposed to talk about their issues. You know, the strong silent type is out, and guys like that sensitive kid on My So-Called Life are in. At least, that’s what my daughter taught me. But I’ve gone this way for a very long time. I’ve got two sons, though. They’re still young, so I hope they don’t end up cavemen like me. You know, I hope that if something’s weighing them down, I hope that they don’t keep that bottled up.”

Kate: “Oh my God, I wish dad was here! Ugh, Stallone was his hero!” Kevin: “I know.” Kate: “God, he would’ve been so proud of you, Kev! I mean, to see this set and all you’ve accomplished, what you’ve gone through…” Kevin: “Yeah, but I mean, he can’t see it though, right?”

Kate to Sylvester Stallone: “You just made my dad feel good. You could help him forget a 102 degree fever, or a bad day at work. I just, you know, I just want to thank you for making my dad feel good.”

Randall: “Sorry, Linda, is that it? I mean, you’re just leaving? Because I don’t think she’s ok.” Linda: “That is correct. She is most definitely not ok. She just got yanked out of her family and plopped down with a bunch of strangers.” Randall: “So, what do we do? I mean, most of the blogs that I’ve read, the kids were a bit more responsive.” Linda: “Well, I’d tell you the first night is the hardest part, but I’d be lying. You and your family, you’re doing a great thing. Just be patient, have zero expectations and don’t try to predict how a single day will turn out.”

Sylvester Stallone: “It’s a funny thing when you think about it — time. Your sister sings a couple of bars of Rocky and for a split second I could smell the ring again, and then she tells me that when you were little kids you watched a lot of my movies and I”m thinking for a moment about my kids, when they were little, messy hair and matching pajamas and all that stuff, and I swear to you, I can see it all so very clearly. I could just reach out and touch it. In my experience, Kevin, there’s no such thing as a long time ago. There’s only memories that mean something and memories that don’t.”

Randall: “Every time someone’s told me something was going to be really hard, it hasn’t been that hard. SATs, biz school, New York City Marathon. I study or I train, it’s not that hard. I think this might finally be the thing that’s as hard as everyone says it is.”

Kate: “There is a difference between wallowing and actually having a normal conversation about it. There is. You know what? When I went to my weight loss camp and I saw a therapist and she asked me about dad’s death, and I couldn’t talk about it. I couldn’t talk about it. And you know what she told me? She told me that if I don’t learn to face my grief, that it would be like taking in a deep breath and holding that breath for the rest of my life.”

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Kevin to Kate: “I’m not like you. We’re different people. I don’t need to walk around and be sad and damaged just because you are.”

Jack: “You know, my life before I met you, Bec, it wasn’t great. I just kind of tried to get away, you know, get away from my neighborhood, get away from my father, just get away from everything. But now they say that if I want to fix myself, I’ve gotta sit in that. I’ve gotta sit in all the ugly, horrible years, and they say that on the other side of it, there’s relief. That’s what they say. But I feel like I’m holding on by a thread.”

Rebecca: “Baby, you are the strongest person I know.” Jack: “I don’t know.” Rebecca: “But I do. I know. I know. I know.”

Annie: “Once I went to sleep over at my friend Lucy’s house and I got scared and my parents had to pick me up. Later I was sad I went home because I probably would have had fun if I stayed. So maybe if you stay here, you’ll have fun, and if you go home, you’ll be sad.”

Randall: “You know what I thought of the first time I heard your name? I thought of the expression ‘deja vu’ because you remind me a little of myself when I was your age. These are my parents, Jack and Rebecca. They adopted me the day I was born. This is my birth father, William. I met him for the first time last year. My whole childhood I felt split inside. There are these people that I lived with and then there were my birth parents, who I had never met, but I thought about them all the time.” Young Randall: “It’s like a ringing in my ears and it quiets down sometimes. It can quiet down so much I almost forget it’s there, but then there are sometimes where it’s so loud, I just feel alone. But, I mean, that doesn’t have anything to do with you guys.” Randall: “But here’s the thing - my life turned out pretty great, and it’s not just my big house or my super fine wife. I’ve got this big, amazing extended family. I’ve got this big, amazing, beautiful life, and if I’m seeing me in you, if seeing you is giving me that sweet, sweet deja vu feeling, I think that means it’s going to happen for you too.”

This Is Us airs Tuesdays at 9 p.m. ET on NBC.


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