15 Of The Best Pieces Of Dating Advice From Taylor Swift Songs

Let's just call Taylor Swift what she is. A lyrical genius. Such a lyrical genius that the country-queen-turned-pop-superstar has influenced countless other musicians with her extensive discography. Conan Gray probably put it best when he told GQ, "Taylor raised an entire generation of songwriters. She taught a lot of people how to write pop songs."


But, of course, it's not just her fellow musicians who Swift has inspired through her music. Queen TayTay has inspired her devoted Swifties all the world over to be themselves, fall in (and out of) love, and follow their dreams. It goes without saying though that a lot of Miss Americana's lyrics are about love, a lack thereof, or the hope for. So much so her songs contain dating advice for almost any romantical situation you could ever even think of. And our minds are alive with all the sound advice Mother Swift has handed out over the years, so we rounded up some of our favorites just for you. One, two, three, let's go b***h.

Taylor Swift reminds us to make sure our partners don't forget our worth

"And when I meet the band/They ask, 'Do you have a man?'/I could still say, 'I don't remember'" — "Bejeweled"

Oh, Queen Taylor. We will remember. In this "Midnights" song, Swift reminds her partner they need to continue putting time and effort into their relationship if they want her to stay in it. And we think that advice is invaluable. Knowing your worth is one of the most important things you can do in the dating game. Though we'd never condone cheating here at Women.com, there's nothing wrong with making your partner aware of the fact that if they don't treat you with the respect you deserve, there's someone else out there who will.


Her lyrics remind us not to let previous relationships negatively affect current ones

"Braced myself for the goodbye/'Cause that's all I've ever known/Then, you took me by surprise/You said, 'I'll never leave you alone'" — "Mine"

We know, we know. It can be difficult when you start dating someone new after a bad breakup to forget about that person and ready yourself to potentially fall in love again. But these lyrics in Taylor Swift's "Mine" remind us that just because something happened a certain way in a past relationship doesn't necessarily mean it will happen that way again. And it's important not to put other people's mistakes onto people who haven't done anything wrong. By letting go of the past and not expecting history to repeat itself, we allow ourselves to be open to all the good things that might come our way.


But she also reminds us that some people are better left in the past

"As far as I'm concerned/You're just another picture to burn" — "Picture to Burn"

Not every ex is destined to be a friend following a romantic relationship. And that's okay. Sometimes exes are better left firmly in the past — and "Picture to Burn" from Taylor Swift's self-titled debut album lets us know that. This lyric reminds us that sometimes we need to get rid of toxic people from our lives in the most dramatic of ways, leaving no trace of them behind.


And Taylor Swift lyrics also teach us to acknowledge when we need to apologize in a relationship

"Why'd I have to break what I love so much?/It's on your face, and I'm to blame/I need to say I'm the one who burned us down/But it's not what I meant/I'm sorry that I hurt you" — "Afterglow"

One of the most important things in a relationship, whether you're in the dating stages or a more established romance, is to admit when you're wrong. Especially if you hurt the other person — intentionally or otherwise. In "Afterglow," Taylor Swift swallows her pride and apologizes for doing things that hurt her partner, and we can't love her more for taking responsibility for her actions.


But Taylor Swift's song lyrics also remind us to be smart in the dating world

"And it would be a fine proposition/If I was a stupid girl/But, honey, I am no one's exception/This, I have previously learned" — "Girl At Home"

In "Girl At Home," Taylor Swift reminds a guy with a wandering eye that he, you guessed it, has a girl at home. The track, taken from the album "Red," reminds us to be smart in the dating game and try to stick to what feels in tune with our moral compasses. Do not get involved in situations you know are wrong or might cause hurt to others.


Swifties are also shown that relationships full of burning passion aren't always the healthiest

"I once believed love would be burning red/But it's golden/Like daylight," — "Daylight"

Arguably one of Taylor Swift's most famous lyrics. Seemingly a reference to her "Red" era, the lyrics in "Lover"-era "Daylight" prove that relationships full of the bad kind of passion (usually associated with the color red) aren't always the best. Even though they may feel all-encompassing at the time. Instead, she teaches us it's important to feel fulfilled, magical, and special, more like the color gold.


But Taylor Swift's lyrics also teach us to take responsibility for our own actions when dating

"And I realize the blame is on me/'Cause I knew you were trouble when you walked in/So shame on me now" — "I Knew You Were Trouble"

Another song where Taylor Swift looks back at her own mistakes, the lyrics for "I Knew You Were Trouble" are all about reflecting on a relationship you knew was maybe not going to be all that healthy from the start. Of course, we're all going to make mistakes in the dating game (trust us, we've all been there) and sometimes it's good to reflect on what went wrong and do some self-improvement in order to not make the same mistakes again.


And, sometimes, you have to go through some heartbreak to find a good relationship ... and that's okay!

"My heart's been borrowed and yours has been blue/All's well that ends well to end up with you" — "Lover"

On "Lover," Taylor Swift reminds us that heartbreak is sometimes just part of the process of finding the person we're supposed to be with. And that's okay. The super sweet love song discusses going through past romances that didn't work out in order to find the person she really loved, making it clear that sometimes broken hearts (as awful as it can feel at the time) are all worth it to finally fall in love with the right person.


And it's important to only put in the effort we're getting back

"Putting someone first only works when you're in their top five" — "Bejeweled"

Of course, particularly in the early stages of dating, there's going to be some push and pull with how much effort two people put into each other. But Taylor Swift reminds us in another gem from "Bejeweled" that you have to be getting effort back in order to put a lot of it in with someone. After all, we all deserve to be treated well and with the same amount of love and care we're giving to someone else.


She's also taught us not to ignore red flags

"And I look back and regret how I ignored when they said run as fast as you can" — "Dear John"

Red flags are red flags for a reason, everyone. And there are probably a few of us out there who wish we'd paid more attention to a few of them (hey, it happens to the best of us!) But this lyric teaches us to be a little smarter about our choices in the dating game — especially if someone is giving us a warning about someone. Naturally, there may be a few false flags when it comes to advice about who to date and who not to date (you should always consider the source on these kinds of things) but it's never a bad idea to think twice about why someone may be trying to warn you off getting involved with someone.


Taylor Swift also reminded us that communication is always key in a relationship

"Oh, a simple complication/Miscommunications lead to fallout" — "The Story of Us"

Oh, how true this one is. In "The Story of Us," Taylor Swift offers some insight into how a simple issue can become far more than that when a little miscommunication is thrown into the mix. No matter if you've been in a years-long relationship or you only started dating recently, it's always important to remember to communicate as clearly and honestly as you can with your partner.


And Taylor Swift reassured us that a failed relationship isn't always a setback

"There were pages turned with the bridges burned/Everything you lose is a step you take" — "You're On Your Own, Kid"

So many of us can feel like the demise of a relationship you've put a lot of time and effort into is a step back in life. But this poignant lyric from Taylor Swift's "You're On Your Own, Kid" cements the fact that's just not the case. Every end marks a new beginning, and sometimes losing someone doesn't have to be a bad thing. You could have learned a lot about yourself in that relationship that you can then carry into the next one or into life in general, meaning a breakup can actually be a big step forward.


And we know that relationships need nurturing thanks to High Infidelity

"You know there's many different ways that you can kill the one you love/The slowest way is never loving them enough" — "High Infidelity"

Although Taylor Swift's "High Infidelity" is about cheating and being cheated on (which, again, we're not condoning) it does feature an important message about making sure you don't get too complacent in a relationship. It's vital to keep your romance alive by continually putting in the effort it deserves and doing things to make the other person feel special ... or the romance could easily fizzle.


She also taught us what it should really feel like to be in love

"I like shiny things, but I'd marry you with paper rings/Uh huh, that's right" — "Paper Rings"

The reason we love this lyric so much is because it really hammers home what being in love with someone should be like. Far from the material things or the idea of constantly needing to show off a relationship or make it seem perfect to everyone on the outside. If you'd marry this person when all you can afford is paper rings, they may just be the one for you. If you wouldn't? Well, it could be time to reconsider if this is who you really want to be with.


But Taylor Swift's potentially very best song dating advice is that you don't need a significant other to be happy

"There'll be happiness after you/But there was happiness because of you/Both of these things can be true/There is happiness" — "Happiness"

Of course, having a partner should be a magical, loving experience and you should feel safe and happy with that person. But it's important to remember that a relationship shouldn't define your whole life. And we think this nugget of Taylor Swift's dating advice from "Happiness" teaches us just that. There was happiness before a romance, there was happiness during it, and there will be happiness again if the relationship sadly doesn't make it. As the only true source of your happiness is you.