Bunnie Xo Quotes That Say It All About Her Strength & Resiliency

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During an episode of her "Dumb Blonde" podcast, Bunnie Xo announced that she and husband Jelly Roll would be getting divorced. Divorce can be a traumatic life event. It often brings up complex feelings of grief and loss. But Bunnie Xo's capacity for grace under pressure was on full display as she discussed the split, and her hopes for her relationship with Jelly Roll going forward. The pair plan to co-parent, and have both affirmed their continuing friendship. "This isn't what you guys think this is. Nobody cheated on the other person. It's literally just we served our purpose for each other," Bunnie Xo explained [via Today]. "And I'm excited to discover myself single, and single and sober, which is crazy."

A quick glance at Bunnie Xo's life story and it's clear that her resiliency is hard won. The podcaster has spoken openly, including in her memoir "Stripped Down: Unfiltered and Unapologetic," about her difficult relationship with her mother, her struggles with substance abuse, her history of sex work and the lingering effects of trauma. She credits her relationship with God for helping her move beyond her past, and supporting her through new challenges. Amidst it all, it's clear Bunnie Xo is one tough cookie. She has a knack for spotting silver linings, and her ability to speak about her struggles and her strengths in a relatable and compassionate way is part of what has propelled her to such a successful podcast career.

"If you keep carrying old bricks, you'll keep building the same house."

This quote from Bunnie Xo is a testament to the importance — and power — of moving on. She very concisely captures the risks of allowing your past to weigh you down. Considering Bunnie Xo's strength in moving forward from a complicated past, this inspiring quote from her memoir reflects the importance of letting go of what is behind you and focusing on trying new things.

In many ways, Bunnie Xo has become pop culture's poster girl for personal growth. This quote exemplifies the importance of not recreating the same toxic environment that you are hoping to escape. Nor is Bunnie XO allowing past missteps or resentment to determine her self worth. Willingness to start again is a key part of resiliency and it's clear that's a quality Bunnie Xo has in spades. It's the attitude of someone who is no longer looking to repeatedly do the same thing while hoping for a different outcome. Bunnie Xo has demonstrated courageous willingness to confront her trauma without letting the painful past define her future.

"The life I have now wouldn't be possible without acknowledging that I had to stop doing what I was doing. Running away into the arms of a man, into the embrace of a high, or into my own destruction wasn't leading me anywhere good. I had to find and keep real love — especially for myself. I had to learn how to stay put — to sit still in the pain, to stop pushing away the trauma, and let this body heal."

Bunnie Xo has been candid about her struggles with addiction. She hasn't only struggled with substance abuse, but has been candid about the way her addictive tendencies have included relying on relationships or even self-sabotaging behaviors. Bunnie Xo has spoken openly about the importance of facing one's trauma, and this quote captures her willingness to dive into the messy parts of personal work and feel even her hardest feelings. Rather than allowing herself to get stuck in toxic patterns — avoiding her feelings and coping in unhealthy ways — she's moving forward and finding new ways to address her pain that are more productive.

"They say in order to appreciate the light, you have to explore the darkness. I never understood that term until I came face-to-face with my own darkness."

Bunnie Xo's podcast is so popular because she is comfortable talking about her own complicated past in a way that's relatable and self-accepting. It's an attitude that helps her to connect with guests and listeners, and she leads by example, encouraging others to set aside their own shame. Perhaps it's a skill she learned from reading; as Bunnie Xo's favorite books are all messy memoirs written by women. That worldview is exemplified in this quote, which deals with the necessity of focusing on the positive aspects of life rather than dwelling on the hardships.

It's an old adage that familiarity with the hard parts of life positions you to be able to appreciate the good things more. Given how many hardships Bunnie Xo has faced, including estrangement from her mother, substance abuse, and now divorce, its a testament to her attitude and positive outlook. Bunnie Xo has a preternatural knack for spotting life's silver linings, and that is exemplified in this quote. In fact, the quote itself seems to be finding the upside to her own struggles, crediting her hardships with helping her to better appreciate the good parts of life.

"For every woman who's ever been called too wild, too loud, too broken. There was a time I thought my story was a warning. Turns out, it was a blueprint."

Many women are familiar with the experience of being told they're "too much." But this powerful quote from Bunnie Xo's memoir flips that old trope on its head. Though she's used to having that tired criticism leveled at her, she has learned to trust her sense of self and not give way before critics. Instead, she's come to see herself as making space for other women, even when haters try to hurt her by making her feel like she's too loud or too crazy. Now, as Bunnie Xo is rewriting the script for divorce in your 40s, her ability to blaze her own trail is more valuable than ever.

For years, Bunnie Xo thought of herself as an example of how not to live. But she's come to appreciate her strengths, embraced radical self-acceptance, and recognized that there is plenty about her life that is worthy of recognition and respect. Most importantly, she decided that she wasn't going to let societal conventions dictate her value. Bunnie Xo's resiliency is on full display when she's able to reject criticism and trust her own assessment of herself. Her strength is in leaning into her own humanity and struggles and using that as a basis to connect with other people, as she does here.

"Eventually, I had to get healthy and get therapy and get honest. I had to start seeing myself as worthy of healing and protecting. It's been a process. It still is a process. I'm not done."

This Bunnie Xo quote captures her commitment to treating her growth as a continuous process. While she might have done plenty of healing, it's clear that Bunnie Xo is still self-reflecting and developing as a person. It isn't easy to open up about the things that make you feel shame. However, her incredible capacity to be open about her missteps is part of the reason listeners resonate so much with her podcast. From Bunnie Xo's refreshingly candid plastic surgery confessions to her honesty about her split from rapper Jelly Roll, she isn't afraid to tell the truth.

In one succinct statement, Bunnie Xo acknowledges that moving past trauma is a process. While it took her years to move beyond her turbulent past, transitioning out of survival mode is a lifelong journey. It contains notes of acceptance — the choice to love herself even though she's not perfectly healed — while also indicating her commitment to caring for her emotional well-being, which is another sign of self-esteem.