Sex Toys For Solo Sex: A Guide To Enhancing Your Personal Pleasure

In many societies, the topic of women and sex continues to be surrounded by taboos and stigmatization. However, even more so, the notion of women actively seeking and enjoying their own pleasure is shrouded in further layers of taboo. Societal norms often dictate that women's sexuality should be passive or solely focused on fulfilling the desires of others, denying them agency over their own pleasure. 

When "WAP" by Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion graced our streaming platforms in 2020, criticisms about the song's obscenity began to emerge — as seen in the Hulu Original docuseries "RapCaviar Presents," where female rappers break down the unjust backlash they receive when embracing their own wealth and sexuality. However, asserting one's own sexuality can be a powerful and liberating experience for women.

With the growing global community of sex-positive women teaching, writing, and singing about sex, there's an interest, not to mention a demand, for a more diverse selection of intimate products to help enhance our carnal pleasures. Masturbation is an important aspect of sexual expression and self-discovery, as it allows us to explore our bodies, desires, and preferences in the safety and comfort of our own company. Furthermore, masturbation has several benefits, including diminished stress, increased sleep, and overall better mood. So, without further ado, here are our favorite sex toys for solo sex that can enhance your personal pleasure.

Another classic sex toy is the dildo for penetration. Created as both a vibrating and a non-vibrating plaything, dildos are one the most diverse intimate tools for masturbation. They can feature a head, textured veins, and testicles. They can be curved or straight. Or, they can be plain, smooth, and not resemble a penis at all. 

Many sex toy companies are over-saturated with dildos that imitate glans, penis, and foreskin. But, for those who prefer dildos without the extra girth and rough surface, Wet For Her's non-phallic Sex Toy Five is a great option, available in the $49-55 price range. This silicone toy might be especially ideal for people with vulvodynia, endometriosis, or other conditions that may affect the vagina's opening. With this product, you can select which size you desire based on the finger-width guide. Listed at $34.95, there's also the Two Fingers Extender Purple dildo that's shaped like curved fingers, which may be just the sensation you crave.

Moreover, suction cup dildos are a great option for hands-free solo sex, especially if you have a hard surface underneath to position it. When used like this, these dildos offer the added enjoyment of thrusting for deeper penetration, elevating your overall fun and satisfaction. Add an extra layer of penetration by making your dildo vibrate with Adam & Eve's Slim Pink Pleaser Vibrator, starting at $19.95.

If you enjoy nipple play or simply want to explore what sensations your nipples are capable of having, then silicone nipple suckers are a good place to start. These flexible cones are ideal for those with sensitive nipples or people with nipple piercings, as they don't pinch the nipples but rather "suck" the areola. Lovehoney's Colorplay Color-Changing Silicone Nipple Suckers have a 4.5-star rating and are priced between $15 and $17. 

But if you want to push your boundaries and test your body, the First Time Fetish Nipple Teasers from PinkCherry offer a gentle pinch to help stimulate your top half while you focus on your bottom half. As the company itself says, this product is "gentle" and "user-friendly" for the "nipple-play beginner." Starting at $10.50-$14.95, these nipple clamps are dressed in rubber covers that can be removed the higher your "sting" threshold gets. One newbie acknowledged the product's customizable feature in their review saying, "Nice that you can adjust the clamps so that you can work up to a tighter grip."

When it comes to anal toys, it's crucial to have a base — otherwise, the toy could go wandering off up there – and ensure you have plenty of lubricants. For beginners, Bellesa's They-Ology Wearable Anal Trainer Set is a great starter pack for anal enthusiasts. They generously offer five different dilator sizes, with  2.6" x 0.54" being the smallest and 3.54" x 1.19" being the biggest. Priced at $79, Bellesa's anal sex toys for butt beginners are made from soft silicone that not only feels gentle upon insertion but also provides a good grip when penetrating. 

For those who are a little more experienced, there's the Bellesa's Petite Sensations Bubbles Vibrating Anal Plug, which does exactly what it says — provide vibrating sensations with a bubble-shaped wand. The "bubble" adds a heightened feeling as the wand gradually changes shape depending on how deep you go in and how far you pull out. Top it off with a clitoral vibrator on a build-up setting and you may just have the most intense orgasm ever. At just $49, this anal toy has proven to be quite a popular product among consumers. "I'm new to anal play so the bubbles were intimidating to me at first, but once we started using it (LOTS OF LUBE) it felt so good and natural!!" wrote a satisfied customer. 

Sometimes, you just want something curved that penetrates differently from a linear dildo. Enter (pun intended) the Lovehoney's G-Thriller G-Spot Vibrator (priced at $49.99), featuring nine vibration settings and an impressive run time of 150 minutes. The G-spot, also known as the Gräfenberg spot, is an erogenous zone located inside the vagina on the anterior (front) wall. When stimulated, it can produce intense sexual pleasure and potentially lead to orgasm. However, clitoral and G-spot orgasms are not to be confused as the same thing — a clitoral climax is the outcome of thousands of nerve endings, according to the National Women's Health Network. Moreover, according to a 2017 study, approximately 18% of women are capable of reaching orgasm by penetration alone. If you're one of the lucky 18%, then this toy might hit the spot for you. Or, even if you can't orgasm from G-spot play, penetration can still be an enjoyable and satiating experience to give yourself without the help of anyone else.

For extra curves, Lovehoney's Luxury Silicone G-Spot Vibrator is bent at a slightly acute angle, making it the ideal G-spot pleaser. Priced at $53.99 and featuring a run time of 80 minutes, this winding sex toy may look intimidating, but many users find it flexible and easy to use. "Wasn't sure about the shape to start with but the curve helps make sure it fits in all the right places," a reviewer wrote.

If you remember that scene in "Sex and the City" when Samantha Jones returns a neck massager thinking it's a vibrator, you can't blame her. The classic vibrating wand looks just like Jones' muscle relaxer. The Doxy Classic Wand from Bellesa is perfect for beginners who want to dabble with multiple clitoral pulse settings. Sold for $159, this 3-meter-long machine comes with a 12-foot cable and a soft cushioned top for contact with the vulva area. 

Advertised as both a clitoral and perineal pleasure stimulator, many customers are describing this wand massager as "addictive," while others praise its non-wireless feature. "This is my favorite toy ... I prefer having something to plug in so I don't have to worry about charging or changing batteries — I've had many a toy die, leaving me unsatisfied," they wrote.

Alternatively, there's Bellesa's Wanda™ Wand vulva massager with 10 "mind-blowing" settings. The company boasts its super quiet noise levels and waterproof capabilities perfect for the shower or bath. At $109, this wireless wand takes one hour to charge, but also only runs for one hour.