1. Teach your children at a young age how to ask for permission
For everything. Especially when with a playmate or friends.
2. Teaching empathy is key
When your child hurts someones feelings, explain to them why that person is upset. Teach your children about remorse and how to apologize.
3. Let your kids know that "no" and "stop" are very important words
And that they should be honored every single time. Explain that when someone says "no", then you must stop whatever it is you're doing and respect their wish.
4. Encourage your kids at a young age to wash their own genitals
Obviously, parents have to help sometimes but encouraging them to clean their own genitals makes them know that it is important and will encourage body pride and a sense of ownership.
5. Always give your children the opportunity to say "yes" or "no" with their choices everyday
Choice is important, so let them make decisions. Obviously there will be times when you have to say no, but when it comes to what they wear, how they do their hair or what activities they want to partake in, let them make the decision.
6. Welcome your child to openly talk about their body
Without any shame and let them know the correct words for their genitals. Make your home a safe place to talk about sex and their bodies.
7. Teach them that instincts are very important
Let them know to openly discuss when things make them feel "weird" or "scared". Ask your child when they feel these things and listen to them explain why.
8. Openly discuss your child's body changes when going through puberty
And let them know this is a wonderful, confusing, and normal time.
9. When playing with friends, teach your kids to stop and check in with one another
Make sure they know that they should take some time out, and check in to make sure everyone is feeling ok.
10. Encourage your children to read facial expressions and body language
Just to make sure everyone is doing alright and on the same page.
11. Help your kids understand what they see happening on the playground
Is there bullying? Did someone get hurt? Make sure your child knows how to help these people and when to speak up.
12. Never tease your children for having opposite sex friendships, or even crushes
Le them know that whatever they feel and who they hang out with is ok.
13. Let your children know how their behavior affects others
Teach your child how to observe other people's behavior or actions when in response to something they did. Ask them why they think that person may have reacted the way that they did.
14. Teach your children to look for opportunities to help whenever they can
Whether it's taking out the trash, cleaning the house, how to be more quiet during play time, holding the door open, etc...
15. Educate them on good and bad touches
Especially in middle and high school, boys and girls begin getting a little more "friendlier" with their touches. Explain to them that booty touches, pinches, and hitting are not ok.
16. Always build their self-esteem
Don't always make it about beauty. Call out great points of their personality and why they are such an awesome little person.
17. When in middle school, start having sex talks with them
And start incorporating information about consent. Ask them to tell you about consent and why it is so important.
18. Discourage "locker room talk"
In locker rooms and sleepovers, where it is usually gender segregated, a lot of things are said during these times. Especially the opposite sex as objects. Teach your kids how to talk about people as a whole.
19. Teach them about changing hormones, and why it is normal and happens to everyone
Ah, puberty. Let them know how their hormones sometimes affect how they may feel and act. Let them know that this is normal and to always feel comfortable to talk to you about it if they want.
20. For boys, teach them about what masculinity is and isn't
Talk to them about gender norms and how to create a healthy form of what masculinity is.
21. When in high school, openly and honestly talk to your kids about partying
Let them know that you do not condone them drinking or doing drugs, but let them know you're aware of what goes on and for them to feel comfortable talking with you about it. Teach them how to remain safe if and when they decide to drink.
22. Always feel comfortable talking with your children about sex
And do it frequently, despite how much they may hate it! As they get older, they will be in relationships and should know how to safely address sexual situations.
23. Finally, keep your kids informed
About sexual assault, healthy sex, and consent. It is important they know what is right and wrong.
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