25 Valerie Harper Quotes That Will Let Her Legacy Live On

Valerie Harper as Rhoda Morgenstern on The Mary Tyler Moore Show
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May she rest in peace.

These Valerie Harper Quotes Will Get You Through the Good, Bad, and Ugly

If you loved The Mary Tyler Moore Show you likely had a secret obsession with Rhonda.

Played by Valerie Harper, she was the funny friend and neighbor of Mary Tyler Moore. She was such a beloved character that she got her own spin-off show, Rhonda shortly after. Valerie Harper was an inspiring woman whose cancer diagnosis only made her stronger. She was a wealth of knowledge and had many inspiring words of wisdom. We're lucky to have lived in the same time as the funny lady and these Valerie Harper quotes are here to prove just that. Enjoy some of the most awe-inspiring Valerie Harper quotes below!

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Valerie Harper Quotes

  • "Every five minutes, every hour, every day, every year that you waste worrying about cancer, you have forfeited time that you could have been alive having fun."

  • "Dessert doesn't count if you eat under an assumed identity."

  • "Don't miss your life."

  • "Miracles occur, or people die the next day."

  • "I used to get some ego thing out of saying I wasn't a star, just an actress. Forget it. I'm a star. I wanted it. I worked for it. I got it."

  • "I'm painfully middle class."

  • "As physics has proven, we're ultimately particulate matter, which means we are all one. That's why racial and gender bias is so ridiculous."

  • "When I was younger I'd berate myself: You're fat, you're not a good dancer, you'll never have a boyfriend. I don't sweat that kind of stuff anymore. Now every day is a miracle. I've also learned that if something is painful or upsetting, you shouldn't hide from it. You should make it part of your life instead."

  • "I long ago came to the understanding that the problems I once had with food were not merely about food. Eating was a way of trying to fill up the emptiness, to provide comfort. It was a substitute for love. I'm not referring to the love that comes from someone else. The love that was missing from my life was self-love. With age I've discovered a sense of worth that makes me less hungry. A piece of cake is just a piece of cake."

The Best Valerie Harper Quotes

  • "However motherhood comes to you, it's a miracle."

  • "Have less fear and resistance. Live in the moment."

  • "In a one-woman show, there must be compelling material that you adore. In both of these there are conversations with you and another character. My Second City background comes in very handy for accent and body posture."

  • "Be grateful for each moment we have and be happy, but more than anything live it fully."

  • "I don't think of dying, I think of being here now."

  • "Life is amazing. Live it to the fullest. Stay as long as you can."

  • "I have cancer. It's in my brain... what are you gonna do about it?"

  • "What is the male equivalent of Bimbo?"

  • "Thought I'm 75, I'm not looking forward to death, but it's here for all of us."

Great Valerie Harper Quotes

  • "I heard that someone asked Mother Teresa what was most important in her work. I thought she'd say the Rosary but she said, 'My nuns and I take very good care of ourselves so we can tend to the lepers and do whatever we need to assist.' If you're strong, or at least not hurting, you can inspire others."

  • "Forgiving is giving up the wish that things could have been different."

  • "Life does not owe me a shred."

  • "We're all terminal; none of us are getting out of this alive."

  • "I really want Americans, and all of us, to be less afraid of death, and know that it's a passage, but that -- don't go to the funeral before the day of the funeral."

  • "We all have a way to contribute, to your community, to your family, whatever it is you can do."

  • "I used to get some ego thing out of saying I wasn't a star, just an actress. Forget it. I'm a star. I wanted it. I worked for it. I got it.

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