7 Dos And Don'ts On Valentine's Day
"All you need is love. But a little chocolate now and then doesn't hurt."
-Charles M. Schulz
Valentine's day may be overtly marketed, but for the romantics, it is an excuse to show love in a way that we wouldn't normally do on other days. Although relationships need more than one day a year of romanticism, Valentine's Day gives you the chance to go big or do less of what you usually do that may annoy your partner.
There are hundreds of thousands of Valentine's Day ideas you can go for, but we have rounded seven dos and don'ts that can make this day a special one even amid the pandemic.
Go for Luxurious Presents
Unless you've promised each other not to indulge, Valentine's Day is the day to present your loved one with an extravagant present. Remember that luxury is subjective, and it means different things to different people.
Your partner may love getting a luxurious bottle of bourbon, such as Weller Antique 107 because he appreciates whisky. Still, another person would prefer an hour's worth of massage with nobody bothering them. Think hard about what your partner enjoys most and try to give them that luxury on the day.
Be Honest About What You Want
There's a difference between being needy and being honest about what you want. If you are a romantic and love Valentine's Day, be honest about what you want, even if your partner thinks it's a cliché holiday. The same goes if the tables are turned. You can tell your partner that Valentine's Day isn't as crucial as being romantic throughout the year and that your romantic gestures on this day make you cringe. Be honest, but be respectful towards your partner's wishes as well.
Look Good and Feel Good
Our partners should love us even if we look like a wreck, but that doesn't mean we should look like one on Valentine's Day. This is the day where you can look good and feel good about yourself and your loved one. So if your partner prefers you in jeans rather than dresses, then why not indulge his wishes? There's nothing wrong or old-fashioned about wanting to be attractive to your partner. Instead, it's a simple way of showing you love them enough to want to look good for them as you did early on in the relationship.
Try To Keep The Complaints To A Minimum
Long-term relationships can quickly go from effortless to annoying. Suddenly, the person we fell deeply in love with is doing things that annoy us to the point where we want to pull our hair out. Rather than being overly dramatic, Valentine's Day should remind you to let go of some things. Your partner may do things that annoy you, but there are things you love about him, so why not focus on them? Of all the days in the year, Valentine's Day isn't a day to remind your partner of the wrong things he does.
Simple Is Best
Grand gestures are essential for some people, but with the pandemic keeping us locked in, a simple gesture on Valentine's Day can go a long way. So rather than heading out to dine or traveling, why not have a bath together? You could cook together while listening to the music that reminds you of something special or go through years of photos. This pandemic has brought a great deal of tragedy, but it has reminded us that the simplest things in life are the most important things.
Plan Something Exciting For The Future
While simplicity reigns these days, it doesn't mean you can't have grand plans for the future. This Valentine's Day could be the day you plan a three-month trip around the world. You could plan for a baby, a new house, or a debt-free life. Although plans can always go astray, it's good to plan things together to see if you both want the same things in life. If not, these discussions lead to more in-depth conversations that can help you resolve any issues that you may be avoiding.
Keep Your Expectations In Check
The pandemic has given us many lessons, and another one of these is about keeping our expectations in check because we have no control over things. We think we do, and we use every possible app available to schedule our life and make everything perfect, but unexpected things can always get in the way. So when it comes to Valentine's Day, keep your expectations in check. If your partner has never been one for grand gestures, then you can't expect one on Valentine's Day.
Remember that we love the way we want to be loved. Some people love through service, others through physical touch, quality time, gifts, and affirmations—these are the five languages of love. So instead of expecting certain things, why not notice how your partner displays their love? If it's through quality time, then that's what your partner may expect from you, more than presents or affirmations.
Ultimately, Valentine's Day is one day out of the year, and it would be better to have it be a regular day and have a year filled with reassurance, laughter, and love.