Your Man Wants You To Tell Him What To Do
Bring back the "honey do" lists!
so basically you're swamped ...
Friendly advice - - never try moving AND starting a new job at the same time....
It's the worst and a total no brainier, but sometimes life happens and you're just forced to do it all at once.
When I started a new job a few months ago, I was a little busier for awhile and naturally so, there's a lot of new on your plate, even for the most seasoned professional.
I was swamped actually, figuring out the ins and outs of my new job during the day and then where to just bloody put my clothes at night. Like a lot of women though, I'm fiercely independent, used to having a lot on my plate and also doing it all myself. So basically your stereotypical control freak.
stop worrying about being a nag
I also don't like to feel like I'm being a burden on other people, but I can take it to an extreme. I often don't ask for help when I need it and when I do, I often struggle with how and what to ask for.
My boyfriend who is self employed and works at home has a more flexible schedule, so he can help with grocery shopping and other things around the house if I need it. He's enthusiastic and receptive to helping me, but he's made it very clear that he's not a mind reader.
So ladies, I say, that if you have a man in your life who is willing to help around the house, talk to him about a "honey do" list. I mean, as women we often have "to do" lists for our "to do" lists, so why can't we write down a few things and expect that our partner help us out if they have the time?
You can have your cake and eat it too.
At first this idea made me very uncomfortable for some reason. I think it's because as women we sometimes worry about being too bossy. We don't want our partner's to feel like we've just become a naggy pseudo mom!
That being said, I've found that giving my partner a "honey do" list is actually the perfect thing not only to get a few things off my plate, but also to strengthen our relationship. Just remember, it's still very important to always show your appreciation for his efforts and don't really become a pseudo mom nag about it.
Why men want a list
Men often want things straight forward and the rules of the game clearly defined. Otherwise, they find themselves not understanding why you're mad that they didn't do the dishes. I know, I know, even though you thought it was obvious that they needed to be done (and they did), most men literally will never pick up on these hints. So ladies, let's stop being coy, avoid the fight and change our communication strategy to get what we want.
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