What To Do If You Experience Stealthing Condom Removal During Sex
What To Do If You Experience Stealthing Condom Removal During Sex.
Do you think you have had a stealthing experience or know someone who has? Perhaps, you want to know what to do if you experience stealthing condom removal during sex?
What Is Stealthing?
Wikipedia defines stealthing as "Non-consensual condom removal," particularly, "the practice of one sex partner covertly removing a condom, when consent has only been given by the other sex partner for condom-protected safer sex."
Why Stealthing Is Sexaual Abuse:
Alexandra Brodsky from Yale Law School published a paper in the Columbia Journal of Gender and Law this past April 2017 titled, "'Rape-Adjacent': Imagining Legal Responses to Nonconsensual Condom Removal." The paper's abstract clearly states the current challenges a woman may face if she experiences this type of nonconsensual act during sex and states:
"Nonconsensual condom removal during sexual intercourse exposes victims to physical risks of pregnancy and disease and, interviews make clear, is experienced by many as a grave violation of dignity and autonomy. Such condom removal, popularly known as “stealthing,” can be understood to transform consensual sex into nonconsensual sex by one of two theories, one of which poses a risk of over-criminalization by demanding complete transparency about reproductive capacity and sexually transmitted infections. Adopting the alternative, preferable theory of non-consent, this Article considers possible criminal, tort, contract, and civil rights remedies currently available to victims. Ultimately, a new tort for “stealthing” is necessary both to provide victims with a more viable cause of action and to reflect better the harms wrought by nonconsensual condom removal.
Despite the lack of current public awareness for this kind of sexual assault, women should understand their legal right to control what happens to their body. Nonconsensual condom removal poses obvious health risks, not only to the unsuspecting individaul involed but both sex partners. Furthermore, this issue brings up the need for a closer look at what we define as sexual assault. Just because a woman says yes to having sex while using a condom, does not mean that that answer would have ever been a yes if she knew the condom at some point would not be used. Any breech of these mutually agreed upon terms, without consent, should be considered sexual assault.
To make the experience of stealthing that much more confusing, many victims of stealthing walk away not only feeling violated but utterly confused as to what to do about the assault.
One thing that all stealthing victims should know is that it's 100% okay for them to seek help if this happens to you. You can take legal action and there are US representatives currently fighting for nonconsensual condom removal during sex to be classified as rape. Two of these representatives are Democratic Reps. Ro Khanna, from California, and Carolyn Maloney, from New York, who sent a letter to the House Judiciary Committee asking this issue be addressed by its members.
If you have experienced sexual violence and are in need of crisis support, please call the RAINN Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673).
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