23 Realities People With Fibro Deal With & Want Others To Understand
Fibromyalgia is among one of the most common chronic pain conditions. It affects an estimated 10 million people in the United States, according to the National Fibromyalgia Association, and 3-6% of the world population. Fibromyalgia is most prevalent in women, around 75-90% of all cass of FM are women.
It’s an unpredictable condition that is still widely misunderstood by the medical community. More frustrating for those who suffer from Fibromyalgia, however, is the misconceptions and lack of awareness the general public has for the condition.
Many Fibromyalgia patients go misdiagnosed for years and are told that their pain or other symptoms are all in their head. Even with a diagnosis, because it is under the "hidden illness" umbrella, Fibromyalgia suffers often receive little support or sympathy from friends and family.
Symptoms are characterized by chronic widespread pain, fatigue, abnormal pain processing, sleep disorders, fatigue, problems with cognitive functioning, migraines, anxiety and depression.
No cure exists, but experts have found a number of treatments that may help improve functionality.
Member's of the National Fibromyalgia Association were asked what they wish others understood about the disease. Here’s what they had to say:
1. “It is real.” — Janie Fisher
2. “I wish we could wear a traffic light device that would allow others to know what kind of day we’re having.” — Linda Mortensen
3. “It’s always there. Even though I may act ‘normal,’ I still hurt.” — DeJarnett Sharon
4. "It’s unpredictable, unexplainable and invisible and most often not caused ‘by something you did’ as though it can be avoided or is your fault. It can be all consuming or it can be liveable, it just depends on the day or week or month or year.” — Kathy Johnson
5. “It’s not fun ‘getting’ to stay home instead of going to work.” — Wendy Wilson
6. “You think I’m faking being sick, but really I’m faking being well.” — Becky Buice
7. “The ‘fog’… I get frustrated with myself when someone questions, belittles or criticizes… I’m sorry I’ve asked you the same thing three times now. I remember thinking it, but don’t remember asking.” — Sue Cook
8. “Everyday activities are utterly exhausting.” — Kae Romeril
9. "We are not drug seekers.” — Tammy Bobb
10. “Chronic illnesses are not one size fits all. What works for your cousin’s best friend may not work for me.” — Patricia Bianca
11. “I have to change my plans last minute because I’m really not feeling well. Or I don’t make plans because people get upset when I have to cancel.” — Donna Holbrook
12.“It’s a chronic condition. I’m not going to ‘feel better soon.’ I’m fighting this ‘invisible illness’ and I’m losing big time.” — Kristin Sciarappa
13. “We’re not making this up, and it’s not ‘all in our heads.’” — Lisa Hogan
14. “I wish all doctors were more educated and took this disease seriously.” — Donna Brown
15. “It changes from day to day! One day you’re able to get up and do the normal things, housework, shopping, lunch with a friend, gardening, cooking, then wham the fibro fairy slaps you on the head. It’s all you can do to make it to your kitchen to get your meds and breakfast, everything in your body feels as if you ran hundreds of miles, [there’s] burning, stinging pain, even your hair hurts.” — Teresa Hawkins Wilson
16. “Because it’s not something that will kill us, no one really cares.” — Dezaray Smith
17. “Getting a diagnosis of fibromyalgia does not have to mean your life is ‘over.’ It took a good while for me, but I have fought back and I have my life back, most of the time.” — Debra Jean Kelly Greene
18. “Some days I am just too tired and have too much pain to get anything done.” — Pat Davis
19. “We’re not lazy; we never know how much is too much activity.” — Cindi Halone
20. “Just because I look healthy doesn’t mean I am.” — Heather Lea Berg
21. “The fatigue is at times paralyzing and we can’t just push past it.” — Tina Wegner
22. “It will not disappear if I lie down and have a rest!” — Joyce Mitchell
23. We are real, strong people, with real, incredible pain. We did not ask for this and it is not an excuse to be lazy or stay home. No matter how good we look, it is an every second battle to live a life.” — Shannon Dawley
h/t | The Mighty
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