Here Are 6 Reasons Why Anxiety Is Affecting Your Love Life

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Remind yourself to breathe.

Balancing life and your anxiety can be stressful and overwhelming, and if you're incorporating dating or relationships into the mix, it can seem almost impossible.

Dealing with first dates can be nerve-racking and if you're struggling with anxiety, this anxiousness might never go away.

Anxiety can be affecting your love life and it's important that you find a balance so you can have healthy and happy relationships. You might find yourself avoiding social gatherings, not giving out your number, or even dogging questions about 'getting together' because of your anxiety.

If you find yourself feeling like this, you aren't alone.

Anxiety is difficult for anyone living with it, but how can it affect your love life and potential relationships? Check out our list of reasons why:

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1. Talking to Someone New Can Send You Over the Anxiety Edge

Once you've been in a relationship for a while or gotten to know someone well, you can get used to their texting habits, phone calls, or typical dinner conversations. But when you're starting new, your anxiety can get the best of you. You may find yourself reading too much into a text message or overanalyzing what to wear to the movies.

This makes simple situations seem 10 times more difficult, and you may find yourself avoiding the dating scene. Although the person that you really want to get to know might seem generally interested in you, anxiety can twist this and make you think other wise.

Remember to breathe, maybe take some CBD for anxiety, and know that this is new territory for the both of you.

2. You're Already Thinking How It Can End Before It Has Even Started

Your anxiety can have your thoughts going at 100 mph all the time, and this doesn't change for your dating life. Meeting someone new can be fun and exciting at first, but before the first date even happens, you're already thinking of how hard the breakup will be.

Giving yourself and the other person the benefit of the doubt is always important to keep in mind. Anxiety can always push you five steps further than you want to be and this can result in a bad breakup before you've even gotten to a second date.

3. You Try to Convince Your Significant Other They're Better Off Without You

Your anxiety can make you feel frustrated and lead you to believe that your significant other must be feeling the same, too. Anxiety can make you feel like the odd one out, but anxiety isn't uncommon at all. About 18 percent of adults in America are suffering from anxiety, so you're not as alone as you think.

Even though your significant other is well aware of your anxiety, you try to convince yourself they're unhappy because of it. Instead of making anxiety the problem, allow yourself to share your struggles with you S.O., expressing your concerns and worries about it, rather than using it as a reasons to push them away.

It's not easy, but it isn't impossible.

4. Arguments Can Be Explosive

A simple discussion can turn into a full-on fight and it's not healthy for either of you. Intense situations can bring on a lot more anxiousness than you can handle and sometimes it's hard to analyze an argument while also avoiding an anxiety attack.

Bigger arguments can even turn out worse and create bad vibes in your relationship. It's important to know how to have a healthy discussion with your significant other, although it may be harder for someone dealing with anxiety, patience and a lot of practice go a long way.

5. You May Become Overly Dependent or Extremely Independent

Overly Dependent Issues

A happy middle is always good in a relationship. You want to be able to confide in your partner about your problems and hope that they can help you with tough situations. Sometimes it's hard to remind yourself not to be overly dependent. Your partner should always be a shoulder to lean on but it's important to remember one person can't take on all your problems.

Relying too much on a person can drive them away or bring on stress to your relationship. It's important to have a healthy conversation about comfortable boundaries with each other.

Extremely Independent Issues

Having some independency in a relationship is always good and it keeps healthy boundaries for each other. When dealing with anxiety, it might drive you too far away. Dealing with anxiety isn't easy and you don't have to go about it alone. Opening up to your partner about your anxiety and how you might be struggling isn't a problem, and it's important to remind yourself.

6. Happy Moments Might Be Hard to Come By

Anxiety may be overpowering at times, and it may be harder to feel those happy moments in your relationship without your anxiety getting the best of you.

"A brain and body trained to stress may have a much harder time enjoying sex and intimacy," according to

Sometimes it's easier said than done, but constantly reminding yourself that you are not your anxiety and laughing off the little things can help you have a healthier relationship with your partner.

Even when it seems impossible, let yourself be happy and remember not to give yourself such a hard time.

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