Even Science Agrees, You Should Stay Single For A Year After A Bad Breakup
The best way to get over a break up? Give yourself some time.
When it comes to breaking up, it's really tempting to just jump right into the next relationship. Especially if you don't like being single— or you're trying not to face your feelings— just substituting in the next person you meet can seem like the perfect choice.
But it's the easy way out and studies have shown that it won't do you much good in the long run. Here's why you're way better off staying single for at least year.
You'll Get Over The Break Up Faster
I know, it sounds hard to believe. You'd think that just jumping in with the next relationship would help you get over the breakup— but actually a study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science found that if you actually reflect on your breakup, you'll heal faster. In other words, dealing with your emotions actually helps you move on. Science says so.
You'll Avoid A Bad Rebound
We all do it— well, most of us anyway. A study from the University of Missouri found that 58 percent of people sleep with someone new within the first month of a breakup. Now, I'm all for showing your wild oats— and if it makes you feel better, go for it.
But it shows just how much we seek replacement to not deal with what's going on. And you can see just how easily that could turn into a relationship that doesn't actually work for you.
In fact, a University of Toronto study found that people who are uncomfortable being single tend to settle for a lot less in relationships, so it's best to wait it out.
You'll Learn More About Yourself And Be Stronger For It
Studies have shown that single people have better psychological growth and are better at nurturing relationships with other people in their life. So taking a year out to be on your own can be a great growing experience.
Though it can be tempting to jump right back into a relationship, taking the time to be alone will help you heal faster, learn more, and make better choices. Then, whether you decide you want to date again or not, you'll be in a better place to live your life on your terms.
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