When you’re young, making friends is the easiest thing in the world. It’s basically all you do with your time. But when you get older, it gets way harder. For some reason, making new friends as an adult feels really unnatural. You finishing making a lot of your friends by the time you reach college and, though you may pick up some more through work, if you don’t find anyone at the office then it’s really difficult. There aren’t that many opportunities to meet new people, so if you move cities or just didn’t find your group in college it’s easy to feel like you’re left on your own.
And if you’re dedicated to your job, things get even harder. Because how are you supposed to make new friends when you don’t have any damn time to do it? Well, you’re not alone. You’d be surprised how many adults feel like they want to make more friends and don’t really know how to do it. You may find yourself acting strange, looking for friends everywhere, and even picking up hobbies that you have absolutely no interest. You can make friends at lute club, right?
But like I said, it’s not just you. Here are struggles of making friends when you work all the time.
1. Stalking New Friends Everywhere
Does the barista want to be my friend? Or is she just doing her job? What about that guy in my spin class who looks constipated but also friendly? Potential friend?
2. And Feeling Slightly Creepy
I've come to this coffee shop three times a day for a month. The barista is now creeped out. I have no new friend and can never go back to my favorite coffee shop. Great.
3. Not Knowing How To Ask Someone If They Want To Hang Out
It always feel sexually aggressive, even if it never is.
4. Having To Make Plans Late At Night
Well, I finish work at 9— so we can do a 9:30 dinner, right?
5. And Cancelling All The Time
How do you make new friends if you're always cancelling last minute?!
6. Joining Weird Clubs For The Sake Of Trying To Meet People
I'm into belly dancing, right? I can do jousting. I'm really passionate about cross-stitch. Seriously. I'll do anything to make a friend. Please.
7. Dealing With Friend Rejection
We've all been through it— and it hurts way more than romance rejection. Way more.
There are way too few ways to make friends as an adult. Sure, the internet helps because you can always find events going on in your area, but people are still weird about meeting new people as we enter adulthood. The good news? Loads of people feel the same way. So keep an eye out, because there are lots of people out there who are so ready to make friends.
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