One of the most touching sights in the world is witnessing an elderly couple walking down the street holding hands. We all wish we can end up like that one day. If you’re lucky enough to still have your grandparents around you should take every moment you can to be with them and to learn something from them. Grandparents have so much to teach us about life. If they’ve been married for a long time, they have much to teach us about love as well.
Here are seven lessons about love you can learn from your grandparents.
1. Ditch The Technology And Talk To Each Other
Our generation is constantly strapped to their smartphones. What does this mean sixty years from now when millennials find themselves in assisted living? Will we still be posting our statuses on Facebook, or whatever social platform exists in the future?
Back in the day our grandparents actually used to talk to each other. Maybe that’s why they’re better conversationalists than the current generation. What makes love work is communication. And not just talking, but listening and really caring about what your partner has to say.
2. Be Friends First, Spouses Second
You need a strong foundation of friendship for a marriage to work. Looks fade, romance dwindles, but your friend, that is someone you can be with forever. My grandparents met in elementary school and were close friends before they were married. That friendship helped their marriage last for over fifty years.
3. Be Patient, Be Kind
Something our grandparents are extremely good at is being patient. They were always much more patient than our parents growing up. Right? Growing up, I always preferred that my grandma or grandpa teach me a new skill because they were infinitely more patient with me than my parents.
After you live with someone for decades, you learn their quirks and you discover some things that may irk you a bit. But, if you truly love and value that person, you’ll be patient. You’ll respond with kindness.
4. Laugh Often
Laughing is so important in a relationship. My grandfather had a really sarcastic sense of humor and every time I would visit, I would see my grandmother laughing so hard she had tears rolling down her face. It’s important that you and your partner can laugh together, it’ll make your relationship that much stronger.
5. “In Sickness And In Health” Isn’t Just Something You Say At Your Wedding
When you marry someone, you devote your entire life to them. You have to be ready to do that. You have to be ready to put their needs above your own. When my grandfather was diagnosed with cancer my grandma dropped everything to take care of him. She was his companion and his nurse. It drained her, you could see it in her eyes, but she always told me that it was “her duty” as his wife to take care of him. Right up until the very end, she never left his side.
6. Take Pleasure In The Little Things
After you live with someone for fifty years, things can get a bit monotonous. And there’s nothing wrong with that. That’s just the way things go. And sometimes you just have to learn to let yourself be bored. But, take pleasure in the things you enjoy doing together. Even if it’s playing a card game or watching a movie together, or just having a conversation. Enjoy these small moments. There will be plenty of big things that happen in your lives together, too.
7. Don’t Take Anything For Granted
Getting up there in age you realize that time moves quickly. One minute you’re young and able to run marathons, the next minute, it pains you just getting up the stairs. Take advantage of every moment you have. And that lesson works in love. Make the most of your time with your partner. Take a moment each day to appreciate them. Remind yourself why you’re married. One day, before you can fully grasp it, your partner will be gone, and you don’t want to wish you could have done anything differently.
Do/did your grandparents have a beautiful relationship?
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