Why Are Children 800% Worse When Their Mothers Are Around?
"Drama begins the second mothers step into the room."
Working with kids I've seen this scene so many times: Kids playing happily until they realize mom arrived. Suddenly they get completely grumpy. Poor mama hardly ever gets a hug before being yelled at.
Check out the reason why kids save their worst for their mothers below:
As a mother of two kids, I know exactly how they can be 800% worse when I am around. If they stay with dad, they are always in their best behavior. Drama begins the second I step into the room. Why do they always act up in front of me?
The Reason Why Children are 800% Worse When Their Mothers Are Around Because YOU, mama, are their safe place. YOU are the place they can come to with all of their problems. If you can’t make something better… well, then who else can?
YOU, dear mama, are a garbage disposal of unpleasant feelings and emotions.
If a child’s been holding it together all day, in an unpleasant situation, the second they see you, they know it’s time they can finally let go.
That means letting go of whatever… whining… crying… their bowels, etc. It’s the last thing you want to deal with after having been out enjoying yourself, or after coming home, tired, from a day at work… but that’s what we, as mothers, get: the uninhibited expression of a raw emotional release, slapping us in the face, the second we stumble through the door.
You have not spoiled your kids rotten if your are greeted at the door with whining and screaming. Oh no… don’t let anyone tell you that.
Rather, you’ve created a space safe enough for your child to have permission to be natural.
And, by the way… it’s REALY REALLY important for kids to be natural with their feelings, their emotions and their bodily functions. When they grow up, we want our children to have highly functioning emotional intelligence and body awareness, right?
So, take it as a good sign.
Do your kids start speaking tongue, crying, releasing their bowels and clinging to you when you walk in the door? Take it as a sign that they love you and just know that I’m sending you lots of love the next time it happens, because I know… Oh, I know… it drives us all bonkers-up-the-wall! They save it all for you.
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