13 Things Confident Women Do To Attract Men Without Even Realizing It

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They're with a man because they want him, not because they need him.

Have you ever noticed that there are some women who just seem to have that certain something that drives men wild?

The odds are that this sense of ease and grace with which they're able to carry themselves is a direct result of their own confidence.

Here are a few things that confident women do differently and the lessons we can all learn from them when it comes to approaching relationships.

1. They Don’t Worry About Whether He Likes Them or Not

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When confident women meet a man, they aren’t likely to immediately go all flirty and start trying to give him a fake impression of what they think he wants to see.

Instead, self-assured ladies are nothing but themselves, which is a quality most men find incredibly attractive.

After all, there’s nothing worse than trying to get to know somebody who seems to be putting up a fake front and wondering when they’re going to ditch the act in favor of revealing who they actually are.

2. They Don’t Obsess Over Why Past Relationships Went Wrong

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Rather than get all self-conscious over why their past relationships went wrong, women with a strong sense of confidence are more likely to realize that the relationship just wasn’t right.

You won't catch them bashing their ex or trying to explain why it was all his fault that things went South, which is a great way to make a new guy incredibly uncomfortable.

If the confident woman addresses a past relationship at all, it's more likely to be with the tact of explaining that it simply wasn't a great match.

3. They Set Healthy Boundaries

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Confident women know how to make a guy part of their life without insisting he become their whole life.

A woman that knows who she is and what she wants won’t ditch her friends or other commitments just because her new guy asks her out on a date.

She’s not afraid to work him into her schedule when it’s convenient for her which lets her new beau know that she’s got her own life outside of him.

4. They Trust Themselves and the Decisions They Make

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There’s a sense of confidence that we ladies exude when we aren’t always second guessing ourselves.

As easy of a trap as stress can be to fall, there’s something incredibly sexy about people who trust that they’ve done the right thing or that if they’ve made a mistake, they’ll be able to fix it when it comes to light.

5. They Don’t Brag

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Anyone who truly likes themselves doesn’t feel the need to tell everyone all the reasons why they should too.

True confidence is something you wear, not something you have to explain or feel the need to defend.

Ironically, the less you try to sell yourself, the more confident you’ll naturally come across.

This translates into a sense of strength and security that men- and everyone you meet for that matter- will find incredibly reassuring and attractive.

6. They Take Accountability For Their Actions

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When a confident woman makes a mistake, she’s the first to own it.

Whether it’s an accidental screw up at the office or an argument during the course of which her lover actually makes a great point, she’s not afraid to admit that she’s in the wrong.

Such women tend to make for awesome partners, as they give their significant other the reassurance that she’s not one of those chicks whose always going to argue just for the sake of being right.

7. They Don’t Try To Control Everything

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A confident woman isn’t the type who is going to constantly try to control everything from her life circumstances to what her man is doing and who he’s with.

Her reassurance comes from knowing who she is and the knowledge that she can handle any situation.

This naturally makes for a stronger foundation of trust with any partner she’s with.

Not only does her man know that he’s free to make his own choices, but that if he makes an unreasonably bad one, she’s more than likely gonna make the choice to move on.

8. They Don’t Take Things Too Personally

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A self-assured woman knows that when someone gets a little snappy, it probably has nothing at all to do with her.

She’s not the type that’s going to pull her partner into a sob fest as she recounts all the reasons she’s sooo mistreated because, at the end of the day, she knows who she is and how to pick her battles.

Though she enjoys having a man around, she also knows how to handle herself and can take care of her own issues with others.

9. They’re Not Always Out For Constant Reassurance

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The confident woman doesn’t need to be told a million times a day how much a guy loves her because simply put, she can tell.

If he’s into her and she’s into him, awesome.

If not, however, she’s got the strength to realize that there are plenty of other people in her life who care about her and that maybe he’s not the best fit to add to the list.

10. They Chose Their Companions Wisely

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People who are confident tend to make better partners simply because they are likely to come with much less drama.

They chose their inner circles wisely and tend to surround themselves with people who are as mature and respectful as they strive to be.

When it comes to constant pettiness or drama, the confident woman is well aware that ain’t nobody got time for that.

11. They Don’t Force It

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If you were to watch a confident woman on a first date compared to a less-confident woman in the same situation, the odds are that you’d find the differences in how the two act painfully obvious.

Less confident women bring a sense of nervousness and desperation, that can sadly be a major turn-off.

The confident woman brings a sense of ease to the situation due to her trust that it will work out if it’s meant to.

This seemingly small shift in attitude will immediately put her potential suitor at ease and make him feel more comfortable opening up and letting her get to know him.

12. They Live a Full Life

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Confident women tend to be more interesting due to the fact that no matter how great their relationship may be, they have interests outside of it that they tend to as well.

They’re not the type who are likely to get so into a man that they let their own passions and pursuits fall to the wayside.

Rather they tend to all areas of their life with equal care and enthusiasm in order to make sure their lives are always rich whether they happen to be in a relationship at the time or not.

13. They Don’t Necessarily Need a Man

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One of the reasons that confident women come across as more secure and are easier to open up to, is that they don’t tend to let their happiness hinge on the outcome of a date or two.

They bring a sense of ease to every situation because they know that no matter how it turns out, they’re going to be fine.

This makes them come across as far less needy and is a signal to every man that they go out with that they are going to be mature enough to be responsible for their own happiness in the long run.


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