5 Things That Should NEVER Happen at the Gynecologist

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Watch out for these red flags!

5 Things That Should Never Happen at the Gynecologist

We trust those in power to do what's right.

We expect politicians to make informed decisions that will better the state of our union. We expect members of law enforcement to protect everyone in the face of danger.

In 2018, especially, we learned that that's not always the case. People with power tend to abuse it and use it for their own personal gain.

One of the scariest examples of this comes from those in the medical field. The year began with former USA Gymnastics doctor Larry Nassar being sentenced to up to 175 years in prison for sexually assaulting women on the gymnastics team. Even more recently, USC's campus gynecologist, Dr. George Tyndall, was convicted of sexually abusing multiple patients over his three-decade tenure.

Seeing as we all trust these professionals to not sexually abuse their patients, we called into question what should and shouldn't happen at a gynecologist visit. What's "normal" protocol for a visit to the OB/GYN, so to speak.

Below, you'll find a list of five things that should never happen at they gynecologist. If one or all of these things happen, be sure to reach out to a trained professional, such as those at the National Sexual Assault Telephone Hotline.

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Your Gyno Doesn't Say Anything

While your doctor is poking and prodding around down there, they should always be telling you what they're doing, anything they notice, etc. They shouldn't ever be silent or not answer your questions. It's your body and you absolutely need to know what's going on down there.

Generally, they'll tell you what's going on, but there are the rare instances they don't. When that happens, ask them a question or mention you feel uncomfortable. Then try to get out of there as quickly as possible.

Your Gyno Gets Too Personal

On the flip side of not saying anything, your gyno should not get personal with you. What we mean by this, is they shouldn't be asking if what they're doing feels good or try to make a move on you. That is not okay at all and if your gyno does do that, get out of there and report them as quick as you can.

Your Gyno Doesn't Ask About Your Sex Life

It's important your OB/GYN asks questions about your sex life, so as to better understand your history and what they need to look out for. If they don't, that's a huge red flag. They clearly don't have your best interests at heart and won't be able to treat you properly, if they don't know these things.

Your Gyno Doesn't Listen to You

There have been problems with doctors not listening to their patients before, this isn't anything new. So if your gyno continues to not listen to you or ignore anything you have questions about, it's time to find a new one. You need someone who cares that you get better and will help you maintain your health. If they can't do that, find someone who can.

Your Gyno Doesn't Allow There to Be Someone Else in the Room With You

Whether it be a nurse or your closest friend, you should always be allowed to have someone accompany you in the exam room. If your gyno doesn't allow that, something is definitely off and you should not go in a room with them all by yourself. Again, get out of there as quick as you can and report them.

Something to Keep in Mind

If something feels off, it's off. Trust yourself and feel empowered to speak up when something is bothering you. Don't be afraid to report your gyno if one or all of the above red flags are raised during your visit. It'll save you and future women who visit them.