The Right Way to Tell Your Kids You're Moving
Tell them ASAP!
How to Tell Your Kids You're Moving
Moving is a part of life.
At some point, we all have to leave the home we love for bigger and better opportunities or to be closer to family. Whatever the reason may be, sharing the news with your kids is never easy.
To make sure your conversation goes as smoothly as possible, we've prepared a few tips on the right way to tell your kids you're moving. Keep scrolling to find out what they are!
Tell Them as Soon as You Can
While you may want to keep your kids in the dark until you absolutely know for sure you're relocating, it's best to let them know right away. Even if it's not a for sure thing, it's only fair that they have time to prepare for the possibility of moving. So when you can tell them, do it.
If you've been having secret convos about moving with your partner, chances are your kids have already caught on and know something's up. Instead of hiding it from them, be open and honest about it as best you can.
Explain Why You're Moving
Simply telling your kids you're moving is not enough. Make sure they fully understand why this decision was made. Whether it be that you or your partner accepted a better job with more pay or you need to move closer to take care of your parents, give them all the details. They deserve to know your reasoning behind this major life decision.
Accept Their Feelings
It's fairly likely that your kids will be pretty upset, once you tell them about the move. Rather than fighting them on their feelings, accept them. It won't (and shouldn't) be something they come to terms with right away, so give them time and space to be upset.
Remind them that the move is really in everyone's best interest, but don't become frustrated when they push back and complain about it. It's not an easy thing to deal with, no matter how old they are, so let them figure it out on their own. Eventually, they'll come around.
Let Them Have a Say in the Move
This doesn't mean that you should let them figure out the house you're moving into and such, but give them the opportunities to make other smaller decisions that pertain to the move. This could be as simple as asking them their opinions on couches, TVs, lamps, or any other type of furniture. They'll start to feel like their opinions really do matter to you and may even become more excited about the move. Isn't that the ultimate goal?
Don't Let Them Manipulate You
Kids are smarter. Smarter than we'd like to admit. Even though they won't admit it, they know you care about your feelings on the moving situation. They know you'll do anything to appease them. This means they'll likely ask you for things they know you'd never agree to, except for in situations like this one. Stand your ground and don't let them manipulate you into getting them a new toy or even a puppy.
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