7 Things You NEED to Do Your First Time Using a Vibrator

Grace and Frankie holding their vibrators on an episode of Netflix's Grace and Frankie
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Get acquainted with it as best you can.

7 Things You Should ALWAYS Do the First Time You Use a Vibrator

Although it brings an immense amount of pleasure, using a vibrator for the first time can be a bit of an overwhelming experience.

There are likely a million different questions swirling through your head, which may cause you to not even want to use the damn thing.

You've done all this work to find the one that's best for you—doing research online, taking in opinions from friends—so to just let it sit in a box under your bed would be a disgrace to both you and the phallic contraption.

So what do you do? You use it or lose it!

For all your vibrator beginners looking to rev up your sex life, we're here to be your saving grace. Scroll below for the seven things you absolutely must do the first time you use a vibrator.

1. Relax

First and foremost, it's important you're entirely relaxed before you start using your vibrator. If you're at all tense or nervous about the situation, this experience will not work in your favor.

Take a deep breathe and get as comfortable as you can in a place of seculsion. Don't let your fear or hesitation about using a vibrator stop you from trying it. This time is all about having fun and enjoying yourself, so allow yourself to do just that.

2. Know Your Vibrator

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Before you even turn your vibrator on, you should know what type of vibrator it is, how it works, how it'll arouse you, and so on.

Read the manual that comes with it, along with the reviews online. Heck, if you need to watch a tutorial on how to use it, don't feel any shame in doing so. It'll only help make your first time using your vibrator that much more enjoyable and less stress-inducing.

3. Turn Yourself On

Chances are, this isn't your first time masturbating. So even if you've never used a vibrator, you probably already know how to turn yourself on without one.

Wait to add your vibrator into the mix until you're already somewhat turned on. Whatever you need to do to feel aroused and ready for a little vibrator action, do it. No one's judging you.

4. Start Slowly

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Ready to turn on your vibrator and get to work? Fantastic.

Don't feel the need to dive right in. Rather, ease into using your vibrator. Start on the lowest setting, moving it around until you've found the spot that brings you the most pleasure.

When you feel comfortable and ready for a more intense feeling, ramp up your vibrator's speed. If you're not ready to do that just yet, don't feel bad about keeping it on the lowest setting until you're one with your vibrator.

5. Experiment With Your Vibrator's Settings

Once you've found that comfortable speed, experiment with the other settings your vibrator has. This will help you get acquainted with it better and help you understand all the ways in which the toy can help get you off. Because as much as we'd like to be able to masturbate all day and achieve as many orgasms as possible, there aren't enough hours in the day.

If you don't feel comfortable testing out the different settings on your nether regions, still play with it outside of your masturbation routine. Know every little thing it does, so that you can try something new the next time you use it.

6. Use Lube

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Lube is often left out of the bedroom, but no matter what age you are, it should be the ultimate necessity. If you're not properly lubricated, using the sex toy won't feel as pleasurable as it should. So when in doubt, lube it up.

There are a variety of different lubes out there, so be sure to do a bit of research to know which type is best for your needs.

7. Move It Around Different Parts of Your Body

Most people assume the vibrator is only meant to be used on your genitals, but that's far from the case. For the most part, it can be used anywhere on your body.

There are different arousal points up and down your entire body, so experiment with using the vibrator on your nipples or inner thighs. Discover new ways to get yourself in the mood and so on.

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