If You're Dating Over 50, This Is When to Kiss
Should you kiss on the first date or not?
Dating Over 50 and Not Sure When to Kiss? We've Got Some Pointers
The first kiss can make or break whatever romance you have going on.
But even before you can kiss whoever you're seeing, you need to know when to do it.
Can you kiss on the first date? Should you wait a little bit? What if they're a bad kisser? What if you're a bad kisser?
Take it all in, now let it all out in one big breath. Feel better? Good, now let's keep going.
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Why Is a First Kiss Important?
A ton of pressure is always put on the first kiss, which can make many nervous and cause them to get a little too ahead of themselves. Is it really worth getting all worked up about? After all, it is just a kiss.
There's some truth to both feelings. While it is just a kiss, it does set the precedent for what's to come. If you don't feel anything after kissing that person, it might not be a relationship worth pursuing. But what if you really, really like them and think your nerves got in the way? That can totally happen, so go ahead and try for a second or third kiss. If you still don't feel anything, it might be time to cut them loose.
Still, it is a simple kiss, so don't get too worked up about it. It's okay to be nervous, because it actually shows you care more about the person you're seeing than you think, but don't let them get in the way of your kissing skills.
Should You Kiss on the First Date When Dating Over 50?
No matter how old you get, the question of whether or not you should kiss on the first date always arises. There really isn't a strict rule you need to follow, but it should be noted that kissing on the first date isn't as frowned upon as it once was.
In fact, a study done by the over 50 dating site OurTime found that "53 percent of singles over 50 feel it is appropriate to kiss someone after one date."
Now, just because over half of the single population feels this is alright, doesn't mean it has to be for you. If you're not comfortable kissing someone on the first date, don't do it. You can wait until the second, third, or even fourth date.
Just be aware why you don't want to kiss them. If you go on a handful of dates with an individual and don't have the urge to plant one on them, then it probably isn't going to work out. You can kiss them to see if sparks suddenly fly, but if they aren't already there when you're in each other's company, they likely won't be when you make out.
Should You Wait to Kiss Your Date When You're Dating Over 50?
So what about waiting to kiss your date? We noted that when the first kiss happens is really up to your comfort levels, but what happens if you decide to prolong it?
Again, knowing why you're pushing it off is the most important thing here. So if you're doing it because you don't want to rush things, you're in the clear.
During an episode of the Today show, relationship expert Ian Kerner revealed that holding off on the first kiss lets your date know you see more potential in them being a long-term partner than if you were to kiss them right away.
Does that mean kissing of the first date is telling them you only see them as something fun? Yes and no.
Not kissing your date can make them believe you're uninterested, while others will find this somewhat thrilling. It really all depends on you and your date.
The best way to get your feelings across, other than by planting one on them, is to communicate. Tell them you want to kiss them, but want to wait a little bit to be sure there really is something there. Or ask them if you can kiss them once you're lovely first date has concluded. Doing so will ensure there is no confusion on either end about the feelings you both have about a potential future together.
The Bottom Line
Kiss your partner whenever you feel comfortable, so long as it's consensual for the both of you. You can kiss on the first date, or you could wait a few dates down the road. It is all up to you.
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How do you feel about kissing on the first date?