I Turn to These 31 Roxane Gay Quotes When I Need Support

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For when you know what you want to say but you don't know how.

These Roxane Gay Quotes Will Remind You To Stay Strong

Roxane Gay is an American writer best known for her essay collection titled Bad Feminist, among others.

When you just can't find the right words to express your femininity or womanhood, turn to Gay for some insight. She is a true inspiration to girls and women everywhere, reminding us of our value in this world. You can help carry out her spirit by using these empowering quotes to get you through the day.

Gay has a quote for every mood, struggle, and goal you might be in the midst of. We bet you'll find exactly the words you didn't know you were looking for right here!

Roxane Gay Quotes For Strong Women

  • "Some women being empowered does not prove the patriarchy is dead. It proves that some of us are lucky."

  • "If people cannot be flawed in fiction there's no place left for us to be human."

  • "Don't flirt, have sex, or engage in emotional affairs with your friends' significant others. This shouldn't need to be said, but it needs to be said. That significant other is an asshole, and you don't want to be involved with an asshole who's used goods. If you want to be with an asshole, get a fresh asshole of your very own. They are abundant."

  • "All too often, when we see injustices, both great and small, we think, 'That's terrible', but we do nothing. We say nothing. We let other people fight their own battles. We remain silent because silence is easier. Qui tacet consentire videtur is Latin for 'Silence gives consent.' When we say nothing, when we do nothing, we are consenting to these trespasses against us."

  • "When you can't find someone to follow, you have to find a way to lead by example."

  • "What goes unsaid is that women might be more ambitious and focused because we've never had a choice. We've had to fight to vote, to work outside the home, to work in environments free of sexual harassment, to attend the universities of our choice, and we've also had to prove ourselves over and over to receive any modicum of consideration."

Best Roxane Gay Quotes

  • "In truth, feminism is flawed because it is a movement powered by people and people are inherently flawed."

  • "Just because you survive something does not mean you are strong."

  • "If you're reading to find friends, you're in deep trouble. We read to find life, in all its possibilities."

  • "I am stronger than I am broken."

  • "I approach most things in life with a dangerous level of confidence to balance my generally low self-esteem."

  • "I am not promiscuous with my warmth, but when I share it, my warmth can be as hot as the sun."

Roxane Gay Quotes To Boost Your Confidence

  • "My father believes hunger is in the mind. I know differently. I know that hunger is in the mind and the body and the heart and the soul."

  • "That the question of likability even exists in literary conversations is odd. It implies that we are engaging in a courtship. When characters are unlikable, they don't meet our mutable, varying standards. Certainly we can find kinship in fiction, but literary merit shouldn't be dictated by whether we want to be friends or lovers with those about whom we read."

  • "I often say that reading and writing saved my life. I mean that quite literally."

  • "I am not easy to love but I am well loved. I try to love well in return."

  • "It's great to remember that reading is my first love."

  • "The story of my life is wanting, hungering, for what I cannot have or, perhaps, wanting what I dare not allow myself to have."

Roxane Gay Quotes To Inspire Women

  • "I embrace the label of bad feminist because I am human. I am messy. I'm not trying to be an example. I am not trying to be perfect. I am not trying to say I have all the answers. I am not trying to say I'm right. I am just trying—trying to support what I believe in, trying to do some good in this world, trying to make some noise with my writing while also being myself."

  • "I believe feminism is grounded in supporting the choices of women even if we wouldn't make certain choices for ourselves."

"It's hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you're going to float the fuck away."

  • "I would rather be a bad feminist than no feminist at all."

  • "When feminism falls short of our expectations, we decide the problem is with feminism rather than with the flawed people who act in the name of the movement."

  • "To have privilege in one or more areas does not mean you are wholly privileged. Surrendering to the acceptance of privilege is difficult, but it is really all that is expected. What I remind myself, regularly, is this: the acknowledgment of my privilege is not a denial of the ways I have been and am marginalized, the ways I have suffered."

These Roxane Gay Quotes Will Empower You

  • "I believe women not just in the United States but throughout the world deserve equality and freedom but know I am in no position to tell women of other cultures what that equality and freedom should look like."

-"It's hard not to feel humorless, as a woman and a feminist, to recognize misogyny in so many forms, some great and some small, and know you're not imagining things. It's hard to be told to lighten up because if you lighten up any more, you're going to float the fuck away. The problem is not that one of these things is happening; it's that they are all happening, concurrently and constantly."

  • "Books are often far more than just books."

  • "Somewhere along the line we started misinterpreting the First Amendment and this idea of the freedom of speech the amendment grants us. We are free to speak as we choose without fear of prosecution or persecution, but we are not free to speak as we choose without consequence."

  • "You don't necessarily have to do anything once you acknowledge your privilege. You don't have to apologize for it. You need to understand the extent of your privilege, the consequences of your privilege, and remain aware that people who are different from you move through and experience the world in ways you might never know anything about."

  • "What does it say about our culture that the desire for weight loss is considered a default feature of womanhood?"

  • "One of my biggest weaknesses, one that has always shamed me, is that I have always been lonely. I've struggled to make friends because I can be socially awkward, because I'm weird, because I live in my head."