Some people say that long distance relationships are doomed to fail, but those people have no idea what they're talking about.
Being in a long distance relationship can actually have many surprising benefits. Here's why?
1. You make the most out of your time together.
Seriously, are you really going to care that they don’t load the dishwasher the same way you do if you only see them five days out of every six months? No, you’re going to focus on what’s important, spending quality time with the person you love.
2. Sex gets…shall we say, inventive?
If you want to maintain intimacy while you’re apart, you have to get creative. Since you can’t touch, you’ll have to rely on whatever you can do with your webcam, your microphone, or your keyboard. This could mean flashing your naughty bits, and it could mean role-play sex where both of you are dragons. Either way, long distance relationships opens up your options.
3. It’s an excuse to travel.
If you start dating someone who lives in Tokyo, eventually, you’re going to Tokyo. If you start dating someone who lives in Barcelona, you’re going to Barcelona. So, not only are you going somewhere amazing, you’re also getting a personal tour led by the person you love.
Even if your destination isn’t as exciting as Tokyo or Barcelona, you’re still getting out of your hometown.
4. You get to play tour guide.
Showing off what makes your hometown special is fun whether you live in Brooklyn, New York, or Panama, New York. If you have a visitor from out of town who wants to know about the soil that grew you, you get the chance to show off everything from the fun tourist traps to that one corner where you found $20 on the ground when you were 12.
5. You get really good at planning.
Chances are that if you’re in a long distance relationship, you and your sweetie are on some majorly different schedules. You might even have to deal with different time zones. Actually making time to connect is a lot of work, but doing that work will sharpen your planning skills, which you can use for other things, like your career.
6. Your friend groups stay separate.
On the surface, this sounds like a bad thing, but trust me, it isn’t. If you have a less than amicable breakup, the last thing you want is a friend group that has to decide who to be loyal to. In long distance relationships, you’re more likely to have your own friend groups, which means you get to skirt that particular issue.
7. You don’t have to shave your legs.
To be fair, in a good relationship you shouldn’t have to shave your legs anyway if you don’t want to. Still, some of us still feel the need to groom when we’re going to see our significant other. If all you’re doing is FaceTime or Skype, though, you can keep your furry legs a secret. Just make sure to brush your teeth.
8. Serious conversations don’t have to take place in person.
You know that rule where you’re supposed to do everything important face to face? Well, in a long distance relationship, you can’t. So, if you’re introverted or easily overwhelmed, a long distance relationship can give you the space you need to actually think through your issues and solve them.
9. You have to have your own life.
Sometimes in a relationship it can be really easy to spend every waking moment together. While this can feel great when you’re deeply in love, it does mean that you neglect your family, your friends, and your personal development. That's symbiosis, not real love.
If you can’t be with your significant other all the time, you’ll find yourself pursuing hobbies, activities and friendships that aren’t dictated by your romantic life.
10. You’re less likely to get stuck in a bad relationship.
Let’s face it—long distance relationships can be really freaking hard. You have to put in a lot of effort to maintaining them if you want them to last. While you might stick it out with a loser for a little while, ultimately you’re not going to put that much effort in for someone who isn’t worth it.
11. Actually seeing each other is the highlight of your year.
Since it hardly ever happens, it’s that much more special when it does.
12. It doesn’t matter if you don’t like each other’s roommates, pets, etc.
Lets say you looooove cats but your partner is horribly allergic. That could be a deal breaker in a regular relationship, but not in a long distance one! Since they’ll only be visiting occasionally, you can have as many cats as you want—just make sure to leave the cats with a friend and do some vacuuming before your honey comes over.
13. Time apart gives you perspective.
When you spend all your time with someone, it can be easy to ignore any flaws they might have. When distance forces you apart, you get a chance to actually think about your relationship, and decide whether or not it’s truly what you want.
14. You get more done.
When your partner lives nearby, it can be hard to resist the temptation to ignore your responsibilities in favor of spending time with them. Meanwhile, if your partner lives too far away for you to go see them whenever, you’re more likely to tackle that to-do list. Possibly while talking to them on Skype, but who cares as long as it gets done, right?
15. You can go old-school romantic and send each other letters and post-cards.
Yeah, it’s dated, but really, who doesn’t love getting mail that isn’t bills? Write a love letter on your nicest stationary, and have your partner do the same. You might find that your communication style changes for the better.
16. You save money.
While you’ll definitely be spending more money on travel than you otherwise might, your daily spending will decrease. Why? Because you’re not going on dates all the time, that’s why.
17. If you can handle the long distance thing, your relationship is basically immortal.
Seriously, as many awesome benefits as there are to the long distance thing, not seeing the person you love on the regular can be soul-crushing. But if you can negotiate all the pitfalls and come out on the other side still loving each other, your relationship is now powerful enough to handle the next step.
So don't fret it if you're in an LDR. You're going to come out stronger on the other end.
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