Who ever thinks to wait even a month to open any gift, nonetheless nine years?
Kathy and Brandon Gunn did.
The Michigan couple have been married since Sept. 1, 2007, with one unopened wedding present gifted by Kathy’s Aunt Alison, who attached a note that read, “Do not open until your first disagreement.”
"Now, there had obviously been plenty of disagreements, arguments and slammed doors throughout our 9 years," Kathy wrote in the post shared by the page Love What Matters on August 29. "There were even a couple of instances where we both considered giving up … but we never opened the box."
Kathy expressed that they never opened the box because they thought it would mean they failed as a couple.
"To us, it would have meant that we didn't have what it takes to make our marriage work – and we're both to stubborn and determined for that," she [wrote]((https://www.facebook.com/lovewhatreallymatters/posts/1223464041009325:0). "So it forced us to reassess situations. Was it really time to open the box? What if this isn't our worst fight? What if there's a worse one ahead of us and we don't have our box?!"
After almost 10 years and three moves, they finally decided to open the box in May. Along with some wine glasses and bath products, they found two notes wrapped around cash, one for Kathy, and the other for Brandon.
Kathy’s note told her to buy pizza (or something you both like) and prepare a bath. Brandon’s note said, “Go get flowers and a bottle of wine.”
"I realized that the tools for creating a strong, healthy marriage were never within that box – they were within us,” Kathy wrote.
And when it comes to their best advice to other couples when it comes to handling disagreements, she says, "For the little things, learn how to disagree and move on. For the bigger things, learn how to get mad and get over it.
Giving up was never an option in our situation because we never had the illusion that marriage was going to be easy. Building that strong foundation is hard work – but once it’s set, it will provide a lifetime of friendship, partnership and love."
I think this means we can’t underestimate the power of wine and pizza to remind us what love is.
We are so happy to see that Kathy and Brandon found it within themselves to grow and persevere together in the face of any obstacle!
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