Want To Rid Your Dating Life Of Drama? Step One: Get A Life.

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Girl, you've got way too many cats.


Let me guess: you're a serial dater and a bit of a drama queen.

Deny it all you want, but there's a reason you felt compelled to read this article. You want to ditch the drama.

Ask yourself honestly if you've caused a lot of that drama yourself. Nodding your head? I hate to break it to you, but it's your fault you're still single.

Get a life.

If you're one of those girls who's always at home with her cats waiting by the phone for her crush to text her, you need to reprioritize your life. The reason your dating life is so filled with drama is because the rest of your life is so boring and, well, nonexistent. Get off the couch, go out with friends, and start living.

When a new guy comes along, you will have plenty of other things going on to keep you from fixating on him and him alone. Which brings me too...

Stop obsessing.

Too many of my girl friends build up dating problems inside their head that don't actually exist.

Their thoughts are consumed with dramatic questions: Does he really like me? What are his intentions? Does he see me as girlfriend material? Does he want to get married and have kids?

Sound like you? Stop obsessing and start living. You need to get out of your head and get a life instead.

Whether you're going on a first date with a Tinder match or you've been seeing someone exclusively for months, you shouldn't be putting so much pressure on your dating life. That anxiety will poison your dating life and send any self-respecting guy packing.

Live in the present.

When you're dating someone new, it's important to be mindful. Worrying about your potential future will prevent you from actually getting to know the person in front of you. Obsessing over the idea of being in a relationship with this new guy will take all your time and energy away from deciding whether he's a relationship-worthy guy in the first place.

If this new man is truly a good match for you, the intimacy and romantic feelings will slowly develop over time. Trying to force him — and yourself — to feel them too early on is expecting way too much.

Dating is supposed to be fun. Don't lose sight of that. Any guy with long-term potential will treat you well in the present and won't make you question his intentions — he'll consistently show you through his actions that he enjoys spending time with you and getting to know you on a deeper level.

Just go with it.

Don't pressure your guy to define the relationship. Instead of letting your emotions get the best of you, try to relax and focus on getting to know the person you're dating.

Enjoy it for what it is right now and just go with it.

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