Let’s talk about sex, baby.
It’s no secret that sex is a critical component of any romantic relationship. But in order to have a healthy sex life — and by extension, a healthy relationship overall — it’s important to understand that everyone has unique sexual libidos and preferences.
Realistically speaking, not every couple is going to have perfectly matched sex drives or sexual tastes. Furthermore, these preferences and appetites are constantly changing as we age due to a myriad of factors: hormonal, psychological, situational, environmental, etc.
So when two individuals with specific sexual needs become an item, it can take time, effort, and understanding to build a solid sexual foundation that will endure once the hot and heavy honeymoon phase is over.
One of the best ways you can maintain a healthy, long-term sex life with someone is to start masturbating more.
You read that right. It may sound counterintuitive, but masturbation has a ton of benefits — both for your own needs and your partner’s.
First, it allows you to get to know your own body better and what you like. If you don’t know what makes you tick, you can’t expect your partner to either. By understanding how to turn yourself on and get yourself off, you will be much better at helping your man improve his technique as well.
Second, masturbation can be a great way to build anticipation and desire in your relationship. Try sending your guy a racy text letting him know you’re fantasizing about him while you touch yourself. Better yet, give him a call and leave him an NSFW voicemail of you moaning while you cum. We promise he’ll be racing to your place the second he hears it.
Third, masturbation is a great way to keep the spark alive when you two are spending time apart. Whether one of you is away on a business trip or you’re in a long distance relationship, Skype sex, sexting, and sharing intimate details of your last solo session will keep things going from afar.
Lastly, by openly discussing your sexual appetite with your partner, you open the lines of communication to see if the other person is satisfied and what their unfulfilled fantasies are. Communication and honestly are the key to any healthy, long-term relationship, especially when it comes to your sex life.
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