Is “Instagram Cheating” Ruining Your Relationship?

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What counts as cheating on social media?

It’s no secret that social media has changed dating as we know it. From meeting your next date on Tinder to becoming “Facebook Official,” the social norms surrounding dating and relationships have drastically changed in recent years.

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As a result, sometimes it’s hard to tell what’s appropriate when it comes to digital dating behavior.

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Jealousy and cheating concerns seem to be an ever-growing problem in modern relationships. If your significant other is constantly liking sexy photos of other people on Instagram or messaging single friends on Facebook, are they technically cheating?

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The answer? It depends on the relationship. Only you can decide that. As the popularity of social media rises, it’s becoming more and more important for any couple in a committed, monogamous relationship to discuss what constitutes a breach of trust.

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For some couples, watching porn or following X-rated Instagram users both count as cheating. Others don’t bat an eye at either. No matter what the issue, you need to be honest with yourself and your partner about your boundaries.

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If you feel hurt, mistreated, or devalued by your significant other’s constant liking and swiping, you have to speak up. Anyone who cares about you and respects your feelings should be willing to talk about and compromise on what is and isn’t acceptable online behavior.

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On the other hand, if your significant other hasn’t given you a reason not to trust him or her, you shouldn’t start making unfair accusations or try to be controlling.

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That will only cause more mistrust and resentment in your relationship. Both partners need to be willing to hear each other out and understand why certain behaviors make the other person uneasy.

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Ultimately, relationships are about trust, communication, and compromise. If you view certain social media behavior as unacceptable and your partner isn’t willing to listen and negotiate, perhaps it’s best to end the relationship and find someone who respects your boundaries.

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After all, there’s plenty of fish in the Facebook.

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