When Is It Okay To Stop Using Condoms?
Want to love without a glove?
Recently my gynecologist literally wrote on my chart "needs to wear condoms." It's because I come to her every few months in a hypochondriac freak out saying "I didn't wear a condom again, test me for EVERYTHING!" Fortunately, despite my years of playing with fire, I've managed to never contract an STD (not bragging.) She actually thinks I am a full fledged irresponsible lunatic. I do not recommend this strategy.
And when it comes to sex safety, it's adults who are the reckless ones. Great role models, guys. According to a study, "between 70 and 80 percent of adolescents reported condom use at their most recent vaginal intercourse."" Us older folks, however, are not so much into condoms. Gloveless just feels better and we all think we are invincible, right?
But at some point, every couple is going to get to the stage in their relationship where they make the decision to start makin' love without latex.
Get Tested First
According to the American Sexual Health Association, there are approximately 20 million new STI's each year. One in two sexually active persons will contract an STD by the age of 25. About 3 million people get chlamydia each year. One out of six people have herpes. According to CNN, STD rates are at an all time high.
Plus, scary thing about most STD's is that they are asymptomatic- meaning you probably don't even know if you have one. Remember: when you're sleeping with your partner, you're also sleeping with every person THEY'VE ever slept with.
So before you decide to stop using condoms with your significant other, make sure you guys both get tested. Because while you might think you and you're partner are in it for the long run now, you'd hate to remember a potential future ex as that guy you thought was the one who ended up giving you gonorrhea.
Mom, Dad, Grandma, Grandpa-- Get Tested Too
Because "between 2005 to 2009, reported cases of syphilis and chlamydia among people age 55 and older increased 43 percent, according to an Orlando Sentinel analysis of data provided by the CDC and Prevention, as reported by AARP." If you're over the age of 50, or planning on getting down with someone that age, best wear protection. Okay?
Ask a Few Questions Before Making the Decision
- Are you on birth control?
Remember, condomless sex has the risk of not only STD's but also pregnancy. Are you ready to potentially have a baby with this person? Because every time you have sex without a condom those are some factors to take into consideration--- STD, a baby. While I have survived many a year on the "pull out method," remember: it is not full proof.
- Are you guys monogamous?
Is he only having unprotected sex with you, or is he doing this with several women? Remember: when you are having sex with someone, you are also having sex with every other person they have ever slept with and are sleeping with.
- Can you trust your partner?
When he tells you that you're exclusive, is he telling the truth?
- Can you communicate honestly?
If you were to get pregnant or get an STD, would you be able to communicate honestly?
My words of advice? No glove, no love, until monogamy.
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