If you're anything like me, you have no idea how to act on a first date. Am I supposed to be myself, or do I actually want this person to like me? How long do I have to hold in my crazy for? Am I really compatible with this person, or do I just want someone to photograph myself at the Farmer's Market with?
Good news: scientists have decided to spend some time improving my love life, and they've figured out which questions you should ask on a first date to see if that Tinder match could potentially be the one.
Or...if you're lying to your friends, that guy you totalllly met at the market, when you bumped into one another in the produce aisle, blah blah, no one believes you!
According to Christian Rudder, the co-founder of OkCupid, there are actually three first date questions you can ask that will determine your relationship compatibility. In an interview with PBS, he broke them down based on data from the OK Cupid website-- by analyzing which matches/conversations turned into actual, real long term relationships.
These were the questions:
- Do you like scary movies?
- Have you ever traveled to another country alone?
- Would you like to ditch it all and go live on a sail boat?
Apparently successful couples agree on the scary movie question about 75% of the time. But why do these questions even matter? Well, they're pretty much a more interesting way of asking someone if they're adventurous. Thrill seekers tend to get along well with other adrenaline junkies, while couch potatoes tend to gravitate towards people who also like to netflix and chill.
Additionally, OK Cupid provides some sneaky, backwards ways to getting some much needed questions answered. For example, want to know if your crush is down to have sex on the first date?
Instead, ask them if they like the taste of beer. According to Ok Cupid, whether or not someone likes the taste of beer is the single best indicator of whether or not they'll have sex on the first date. (Beer lovers are 60% more willing to sleep with someone on the first date.)
YOUR FAVORITE DRINK DETERMINES YOUR SEX LIFE? WHY HASN'T ANYONE EVER TOLD ME THIS BEFORE?
If you want to know about politics, instead, ask your date if they like their life simple or complex. If they like complexity, they're most likely liberal. Simplicity-- conservative. If you want to know if your partner is religious, ask them if they're annoyed my spelling and grammar mistakes. If the answer is no-- then they're most likely moderately religious.
But at the end of the day, when it comes down to the first date- just remember to stay present, have fun, and have standards. Be yourself-- because you want someone who likes you, not the fake version of you. That won't last.
And never settle for anything less than you deserve.
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