In A Dating Dilemma? Here's How To Go from Doormat to Dreamgirl

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How bitchiness will help you get the guy.

Have you ever heard of Sherry Argov's book "Why Men Love Bitches?" If you haven't, you need to go out and buy it, or download it, whatever, right now. It's practically my bible.

See, I've lived most my life as a doormat. I've changed my personality, my looks, and my schedule for the men that I've dated and have crushes on. The only thing that i've found by doing that is that it doesn't work.

The book "Why Men Love Bitches" explains how to be a babe who's in total control of yourself.

Here are some of the best quotes.

Here's how the author Sherry Argov defines a bitch

"Bitch (noun): A woman who won't bang her head against the wall obsessing over someone else's opinion - be it a man or anyone else in her life. She understands that if someone does not approve of her, it's just one person's opinion; therefore, it's of no real importance. She doesn't try to live up to anyone else's standards - only her own. Because of this, she relates to a man very differently."

It's all about keeping your own life and hobbies

"A bitch is more selective about her availability. She's available sometimes; other times she's not. But she's nice."

And commanding respect

"Truly powerful people don't explain why they want respect. They simply don't engage someone who doesn't give it to them."

Be independent

The person who is least dependent on the outcome of the relationship will automatically draw the other person in.

And remember, if you've gone through a break up?

"Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You are deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing, every day, not to be with you."--— Greg Behrendt, He's Just not That Into You

Put Yourself First

The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.

And Remember to Love Yourself

"Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves."

Who should pay the bill?

"He'll let a woman who becomes his doormat pay for dinner on the first couple of dates, but he wouldn't think of it with his dreamgirl."

Differentiate between wants vs.needs

He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.

Keep space

"Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard."

Don't define the relationship too quickly

"If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind."

Don't submit

"When a woman doesn't give in easily and doesn't appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her."

Be Fearless

"The biggest variable between a bitch and a woman who is too nice is fear. The bitch shows that she's not afraid to be without him."

Be a Prize

"Act like a prize and you'll turn him into a believer."

And remember...he'll treat you like you treat yourself

"It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt."

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